[lindsay321]

I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he is really sweet, I love him to bits. He is insecure and quiet with not a lot of friends, and he loves his mum who is very controlling. I am his second girlfriend and he is 21 I'm 20.

I am very sexually active and very outgoing he loves me so much and thinks I'm perfect. We've had sex but rarely and he has even lost an erection while doing it. For he past year we haven't even had sex properly... I really suspect he is gay please help :((

[mmresd]

Ask him? Tell him your concerns and see what he says. How are you very sexually active when your boyfriend barely has sex with you? Are you cheating on him? Or did you mean that you have a high sex drive.

[talaniman]

Bet you don't live together, or else you would have been talking about this and found out what the problem is and sought solutions for the problem. That you assume a guy is gay after being with him for a few years is evidence that you don't communicate, and know very little of this guy really.

That's what needs to be corrected, the communications problem. Unless that's all you wanted him for was sex.