[simij]

I have been with my boyfriend for a year I fell in love with him in the first few months and I really show my affection to him. But every time I say I love he would be like 'ye I wish it's true' and I'm there trying to convince him that what I feel for him is true. The thing is I started a new school he isn't in school anymore so he doesn't have that much friends. I strated getting loads of attention a type of attention that he has never given be before . We had a big fight one night about him always getting drunk and ruining my nights I was very angry at that moment and I was thinking about leaving him, my anger led to a very immature act. This friend who give me loads of attention at school started chatting with me on Facebook and flirting and I kept chatting he said some dirty stuff and I just continued I immiediatly felt bad and promised myself that I will never do such a thing again and as usual I fell for my boyfriend again. 10 months later my boyfriend went into my Facebook chats and saw this chat he is very angry and telling me why did you do that I love you I really love you . Why has never admitted this before why did he always take me forgranted please help my realationship is at stake :/

[Tassy1998]

Because if he's like me it's hard showing your feelings you lock them up, and you don't know what you have till someone else has it, he was scared to tell you thought he didn't have to but now he knows that he should, trust me he doesn't mean to take advantage

[C0bra_M3nace]

Now I'm a little bit lost, he actually says "Yeah, I wish it was true" to you saying you love him? Sounds to me like your boyfriend here has a bit of trust and love issues, and when you say he doesn't have many friends, what do you mean, is he new or do people just not like him. All of this stuff is important, because if he's bullied and disliked by people at school he could very well have trust and love problems. I was the same way, that outcast kid, and that could have been something I would have caught myself saying to a girl I was with if I thought she was too good for me. Maybe he thinks you're too good for him, and can't believe that you actually love him, and maybe his outburst of sudden I love you's was to make you feel bad about doing what you did.

There's no need to over analyze that small detail, you should be concentrating now on rebuilding the lost trust in your relationship because of what you did.

Best of Luck,

[simij]

Thank you loads that really helped me xx

[Homegirl 50]

I'm more concerned with him getting drunk and going into your face book messages. Are there no boundaries in your relationship?
You both sound young, and he sounds insecure. This does not sound like a pleasant relationship to me.

[whyamihorrible]

Because if he's like me it's hard showing your feelings you lock em up, and you don't know what you have till someone else has it, he was scared to tell you thought he didn't have to but now he knows that he should, trust me he doesn't mean to take advantage

Maybe his parents don't want him to be weak like showing his feelings. Or it's just easier to bottle them up and not show TRUE emotions.