[ballar2795]

I'm 17 and my girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year now. You can say oh it's just puppy love, and I don't know maybe it just is (if it is hormones suck) but we are madly in love. We even plan to get married. I know she is right for me. I dated around I know what I do and don't like. And she is just perfect I can be myself around her we are both so happy when were around.

Now just a heads up me and her are both very active lds (mormons) And mormons don't want the youth to date tell 16. Which makes sense, the church also doesn't like youth to have a bf/gf when there dating. Which does make sense. But me and my girlfriend can't help it we love each other.

Like all relationships it has its up and downs. But we really do love each other. Just man when I look into her eyes I know its real.

This last month has sucked balls though. I noticed that like she would stop sending smiliey faces to me. And our txting conversation just got super boring. It bugged me. I kept asking what was up she wouldn't tell me which pissed me off. Finally after I said you don't love me. I really didn't feel loved she hasn't shown any love for me and it drives me crazy.

I found out she was distancing herself. So that she could get closer to God. I was hurt and furious. Why could she do this to me? Well we kind of tried to get back to our orignal selves but I don't know I was just so upset about it I would bring it up and she would get mad at me saying let it go.

One time we got in a fight about it and that same day she was leaving for a camping trip which sucked, she was going to be gone on my birthday. I tried to make it better. Usually when we got in fights we would make up that day I would make it all better.

I tried my hardest too, well on my birthday she got in service for a sec and txted happy birthday and I gtg service. No smiley face no I love you nothing. Last year she was camping on my birthday and she climbed up a mountain to call me.

She didn't do that. Well she got home yesterday. Last year she posted on my Facebook happybirthday sorry I'm a day late :). She hasn't posted anything and she was on Facebook.

We have lost all passion, I feel so alone from her. I asked her if she loves me she said you but she hasn't done anything to prove it. She says she still wants to get married to me but she never talks about it anymore. I don't know what to do?

I love her I would rather take the hard road of making this work again then just taking the easy way out and ending it. I'm absolutely crazy for her. But I don't feel like she is doing the same. My ex gf's wished me a better birthday then her. And it sucks cause I went all out for her on her birthday. Her favorite drink I made a huge note of how much I love her and how much she means to me. I did everything I could on her birthday to make her feel special and loved.

But she hasn't done nothing it sucks. And I'm 17! This should be the time of partying and hooking up with a bunch of chicks. But the girlfriend I fell in love with I wouldn't mind being tied down. But not the one I'm dating now. Before her I never wanted a girlfriend. I played 5 girls but then I got serious with her and let them all go. I want to be with her. I have dated a bunch of girls and non of them are like her. Is it set in stone that were going to get married no. But I can see it happening I really want things to work. I told her you got to show you love me. I'm thinking playing hard to get. Then she can realize how much I am to her. Or is it too late and I should just moove on?

What should I DO?

[Homegirl 50]

I told her you gotta show you love me Dude that is crazy. She is distancing herself or you feel she is because she is not ga ga over you like you are over her. Her focus is elsewhere; her church. Respect that and find someone who will drool all over you.

I'm thinking playing hard to get. Then she can realize how much i am to her. That's real mature!
Or you can accept who she is and have a relationship with her.

[ballar2795]

Man! I'm so sorry too here that, maybe she with someone that you don't know about ? Or she just having a bad time right now & she just don't know how too tell you ! The right way (maybe) but just give her sometime, I think you should ask her if she okay /or/ talk about your relationship with her <3

She's not the type that would cheat, I have asked her if there's someone else and she said no. And that she truly does love me. I think it's a bad time for her. The thing that sucks is a constantly bring it up to her.

[ballar2795]

I told her you gotta show you love me Dude that is crazy. She is distancing herself or you feel she is because she is not ga ga over you like you are over her. Her focus is elsewhere; her church. Respect that and find someone who will drool all over you.

I'm thinking playing hard to get. Then she can realize how much i am to her. That's real mature!
Or you can accept who she is and have a relationship with her.

I think she is still crazy for me she just got comfortable. Like she knows I love her so she doesn't have to do too much? Maybe I don't know I'm thinking of going on a date soon with another girl. But I want her that's the thing

[Homegirl 50]

I think she is still crazy for me she just got comfortable. Like she knows i love her so she doesnt have to do to much? maybe idk im thinking of going on a date soon with another girl. But i want her thats the thing

If you are thinking about going out with another girl you don't love her that much unless you are doing it for spite and that is just immature.
She may still care for you but she is just not as crazy for you as you are for her.
If that bothers you, you leave her or you accept her

[ballar2795]

No its not like going out with another girl... it would be a date with a friend and a double date... im not going to cheat on her

[ballar2795]

Alot of girls tells a guy that there's no one else , the do that cause they don't want too hurt the one's that loves them so much , but that's just me ! You know her way better then me too know If she has love for you or not but if I was a guy that was doing that too a girl , I would think that he trying too get a way from me but he not showing it ?

She loves me... when we first started getting serious she was the one that came for me... we already liked each other but she wanted more so she really tried and got me... in our relationship she was the first one to say I love you... like when I look into her eyes I know its real... but school just got out and were both busy we haven't seen each other for a week

[Homegirl 50]

Would it bother you if she went on a date with another guy? When you are exclusively dating someone, you don't go out on dates with another person.

[ballar2795]

Would it bother you if she went on a date with another guy? When you are exclusively dating someone, you don't go out on dates with another person.

Remember I said I'm lds my church wants us to date a lot... she has gone on a date while we were together I have gone on one... its not like cheating at all

[Homegirl 50]

Well why call each other girl friend and boy friend, just date. Maybe that is what she wants to do. You two are too young for all the serious stuff any way and she obviously does not want that. So you go out with other girls let her go out with other guys and if you two are meant to be together, it will happen somewhere down the road

[ballar2795]

Well why call each other girl friend and boy friend, just date. Maybe that is what she wants to do. You two are too young for all the serious stuff any way and she obviously does not want that. So you go out with other girls let her go out with other guys and if you two are meant to be together, it will happen somewhere down the road

Lady you don't know.. you can't say I'm too young sure I maybe young but I know what love is... you can't tell me that she doesn't want to be with me... you don't see the way she lightens up when I walk in the building. She wants to marry me

All relationships have ups and downs

[odinn7]

Lady you dont know..you can't say i'm too young sure i maybe young but i know what love is...you can't tell me that she doesnt want to be with me...you dont see the way she lightens up when i walk in the building. She wants to marry me

All relationships have ups and downs

I really don't understand why you are here asking about this if you already know the answers. Homegirl was trying to help you based on what you wrote but then you tell her she doesn't know anything and that your girlfriend does want to be with you.

Well, if you're so sure that she wants to be with you... then what are you hoping to get from anyone here?

And really, to hand out negatives like that simply because you didn't like the answer she gave you... an opinion that can neither be right or wrong... how many people do you figure are going to rush in to help you when you do that?

So... good luck with your girlfriend that wants to be with you but for some reason seems to be blowing you off.

[zuely96]

I'm a Mormon as well but do what God wants you too do don't let the church live you let God live you it's a tuff situation your in I wish I can help she clearly is trying to find herself give it some time I'm 16 and I clearly know that I have to have pacients for things but not only is it that if your pacient good things will come but if you change better things will happen do you really want to be on a wating list because that's what she's doing pray to God and see what he can do surely we both know it won't just come to you right away but maybe it might God does everything for a learning experience see I like the church but the church isn't living me I take peoples advice only if it'll really work on me and I give that advice to you she seems like a great gal but move on I once dealt the same way about a boy and now look we walk and were truly strangers again I think till this day if he was here I would be pregnant and he wouldn't be around as much if I had a child so just be positive if its meant to be it'll work if it didn't you'll find a great girl ;)

Yours truly zuely girl

[ballar2795]

I really don't understand why you are here asking about this if you already know the answers. Homegirl was trying to help you based on what you wrote but then you tell her she doesn't know anything and that your girlfriend does want to be with you.

Well, if you're so sure that she wants to be with you...then what are you hoping to get from anyone here?

And really, to hand out negatives like that simply because you didn't like the answer she gave you....an opinion that can neither be right or wrong....how many people do you figure are going to rush in to help you when you do that?

So...good luck with your girlfriend that wants to be with you but for some reason seems to be blowing you off.

First off how can you say I'm being negative when your doing exactly that!! I appreciated homegirls advice at first but she doesn't understand where I'm coming from with the dating thing. Which is hard to understand for non mormons. We do it differently then society does it

Second of all I know she cares about me. I was just confuzed when I wrote this article I was mainly doing it to spill out everything that I have been building up. So no I'm really not coming for advice. I already had a plan. I just did it to spill my feelings OK. Ok. And she's not blowing me off. We actually fixed things so there

[ballar2795]

I'm a Mormon aswell but do what God wants you too do don't let the church live you let God live you its a tuff situation your in I wish I can help she clearly is trying to find herself give it some time im 16 and I clearly know that I have to have pacients for things but not only is it that if your pacient good things will come but if you change better things will happen do you really wanna be on a wating list because that's what she's doing pray to God and see what he can do surely we both know it won't just come to you right away but maybe it might God does everything for a learning experience see I like the church but the church isn't living me I take peoples advice only if it'll really work on me and I give that advice to you she seems like a great gal but move on I once dealt the same way about a boy and now look we walk and were truly strangers again I think till this day if he was here I would be pregnant and he wouldn't be around as much if I had a child so just be positive if its meant to be it'll work if it didn't you'll find a great girl ;)



Yours truly zuely girl

Thanks zuely girl. That's what I do. I pray to God I have him guide me not the church. But she does it differently and her dad is the bishop but it's the churches way. She wouldn't have a boyfriend with any other boy but she did it with me cause she truly loves me. Regardless of what the church says.

But her parents know nothing about us she constantly has to lie when everyone will tell her parents they see her with a boyfriend. So I think its just tough on her to keep lying and lying so her parents won't flip and we would never see each other.

So I think she has had enough for a sec... But we fixed it just barley :)

[Homegirl 50]

Then you are a selfish boy.
You now tell us this girl has been lying all this time to her parents about you. No wonder she is distancing herself. Keeping up a lie uses up unnecessary energy.
I will say I again, you both are young you have your life ahead of you. Don't have this girl lying and sneaking around. You say you love her, you think you are not too young and immature? Show some maturity and do the right thing. Stop this sneaking around and behave as you are supposed to.

[ballar2795]

Then you are a selfish boy.
You now tell us this girl has been lying all this time to her parents about you. No wonder she is distancing herself. Keeping up a lie uses up unnecessary energy.
I will say I again, you both are young you have your life ahead of you. Don't have this girl lying and sneaking around. You say you love her, you think you are not too young and immature? Show some maturity and do the right thing. Stop this sneaking around and behave as you are supposed to.

Hold up what happened to I'm so mature? I have told her all the time you don't have to lie for me we can break up. She said no. I have told her over and over this lying isint good. If you want we can break up but she told me no. So I have given her the oppurtunity multiple times.

I have given up so much for her. I have done so many selfless things for her. So saying I'm selfish is such a false statement

[Homegirl 50]

She has distanced herself from you, you said so yourself. She is not as ga ga over you and maybe she is tired of lying to her parents. Encourage her to either be honest with her parents or stop dating you. That would be the mature way to do this.
Then you two can see each other the honest way.

[Cat1864]

A very important piece of information seems to be missing. How old is your girlfriend?

[Homegirl 50]

Good question.