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fahad 2019 · May 18, 2012, 03:50 PM

Hi everyone I am with relation with one girl for past 6 years, and I want to marry her but the problem is my parents are not ready to marry me with the girl. Bcoz my mom don't like that girl. Girls elder sister once fought with my mom from that day my mom don't want me to marry that girl. Baut we both love each other and wanted to get marry, now if I leave my parents and marry that girl so it will be OK ? I can't live girl p-lzzzzzz help me what should I do?

Littlebeast · May 22, 2012, 09:23 AM

U should marry her! It shouldn't be up to your parents who you can or can't marry. If u really love this girl then go for it and your parents will learn to live with the fact that you and that girl really lie each other! :) hope this helps you any!

Cat1864 · May 22, 2012, 11:55 AM

If I am reading your question correctly, you come from a culture where parents, traditionally, have a lot of say in choosing a proper mate for their children. Due to a previous disagreement with your girlfriend's older sister your mother does not approve of your wanting to marry the younger sister.

How does your girlfriend's family feel about yours? Do they approve of the marriage? Are there any other reasons your mother and/or family object to the marriage?

I cannot tell you that everything will be okay if you leave your family and marry this woman. There are too many variables and you give no details about her family or what you can do to support yourselves should the families turn their backs on you. You don't say how old you are or if you live in an area that is supportive of couples who choose a non-traditional start to marriage.

Is there anyone who might speak to your mother and help her let go of the past disagreement? Has anyone tried?

In the end, it has to be your decision. Understand that there isn't going to be a happily ever-after. Your family's permission may help ease some tensions. All marriages are about learning to communicate and compromise. However, turning your back on your family will cause some tensions. If you walk away, will you be able to start your life over with your future wife without blaming her for alienating you from your family? If she has to walk away from her family, would she start blaming you? Is love for each other enough?