[karenina666]

First of all, I have to say that I don't know what/how happened, I feel used and betrayed as well.

Ive started dating a new guy I met through a couple Ive known for ages, they're old friends of mine, coincidentally the husband and I are temporarily working in a foreign city, where we don't know many people so we hang around together a lot that's how I met the new guy, he's a colleague of the husband.

The new guy I was dating felt like he could become a serious relationship, we just had slept together a few days ago and it was wonderful, however he's a bit of a nerd and he never replies my texts and I even thought he was mad at me the other day cause I didn't picked him up when he needed a ride, all of this cause he never responds my texts.

The other day I was feeling sad and stressed because of work, I texted the new guy and he didn't respond, so the next day I thought it would be a good idea to call my friend "the husband" to have dinner, I never for a moment considered it would be a bad idea cause I've gone to their house many times and I knew how much he loves his wife, who is pregnant by the way.

We had dinner, and too much wine, I didn't see my phone and didn't see the new guy has responded my text, I was too drunk I threw up, the husband told me I shouldn't drive like that and I agreed, I said I'll stay in the couch, he said, no, stay in the bed... I don't remember how it happened, I was too drunk, but we had sex... well more like he f** me, I vaguely remember trying to stop him, but I also remember participating at moments, and I say at moments cause I didn't fully participated, that I'm sure.

I know I'm responsible, and I know I'm guilty, the husband made me swear secrecy but I told the new guy what happened cause I didn't want to base a relationship on a lie, he seems willing to forgive me, I can't tell the wife (and my friend) because I know it's the responsibility of the husband and cause I don't want her to get sick. I know though that I have to cut the relationship and move away from them.

The husband made me swear secrecy, but I told the new guy because he's such a great person and I didn't want to move forward with such a secret to hide. He seems willing to forgive me, but I'm not sure I could do this to him, knowing that he's a colleague of the husband, but on the other hand, I think he's such a great person and has many qualities I'm feeling tempted to ask his forgiveness,, A "friend" of mine said he'd feel sorry for the new guy if he forgives me... Do you think the same? Also... I don't know if I have the right to feel betrayed, but I do... am I right in feeling like that?

[BlazePT]

Well, the right question to ask would be " What makes you think such thing won't happen again? " If you 're sure that you'll learn from this mistake, then go for it. Don't know what you mean by "feeling betrayed", though; shouldn't be this new guy who's feeling like that?

[talaniman]

You betrayed yourself with too much wine and think that its all his fault? You both cheated, you both bear responsibility, and now everyone knows but pregnant wife, your so called friend. If you feel betrayed, just imagine how she will feel.

Your boyfriend may be willing to share, but I doubt the wife would. I think they both are taking advantage of you myself. So maybe don't be so naïve and trusting of either of them.