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K.griff · Feb 20, 2012, 05:11 PM

I have been casually seeing a guy for over2 years now. Last summer he ended it because he got a girlfriend. After a few months he contacted me again. I saw him again from time to time and when I told him I think we should end this because he has a girlfriend and I was catching feelings for him. He said he understood and agreed that maybe we shouldn't anymore.Ater all of this I still heard from him again and still wants to see me. I just can't understand him and why does he continue.

Wondergirl · Feb 20, 2012, 05:27 PM

It doesn't matter why he continues to contact you. You are now nothing more than a booty call to him.

When he contacts you, don't respond. No Contact from now on. YOU say no, build the fence, set the boundaries.

Cat1864 · Feb 20, 2012, 10:06 PM

K, very simple-you allow it.

Like WG said, don't communicate with him.

Build a life for yourself that has no room for him and his games. You don't deserve to be someone's toy to play with when he wants and left on the shelf when he doesn't.

Take care of yourself.

Fr_Chuck · Feb 20, 2012, 10:29 PM

Agree, he is getting free sex from you. Saves him big bucks on hookers.

But he comes because you let him, so stop answering his calls and/or just tell him it is over.

I would ask, you know he has a girlfriend, you want it to be over, so why are you having a hard time just telling him no and to go away.

K.griff · May 20, 2012, 09:15 AM

Met this guy almost 3 years ago now. He isn't my friend,but see each other for sex. The sexual chemistry is great. The attraction so strong! I fell in love with him from the moment I met him. Last summer he told me he got a girlfriend,but still
Continued to see me. Then in September he said they were having problems and that they were semi bf/ girlfriend. He is still with her and still sees me. When we are together the making out is so passionate and says it feels so good to touch me.
By the way what defines a semi girlfriend? When he leaves he tells me that he will see me soon. Is he truly just all about the sex or does he really like me? Or is his relationship with her not all that good,so he comes to me? Having trouble figuring all this out. I would think that if he is having sex with his girlfriend and
Satisfied he wouldn't need me. He knows that I fell for him
Because I have told him so. I am also older than him by 10 years. Please help!

Synnen · May 20, 2012, 11:19 AM

Why do you want a guy that cheats?

If he cheats on her, he'd cheat on you.

BLOCK this guy from your phone, stop seeing him, and move on with your life.

WisperWill70 · May 21, 2012, 11:58 PM

Let me dispel a few of the things you might be telling yourself: --this guy is never going to be your boyfriend and he's never going to commit to you. He doesn't have secret feelings for you and is not just too afraid to leave the "semi-girlfriend", he's not afraid of his feelings and no, he's not cheating on her because he's unhappy - that's not why he's looking you up. He is cheating on her (and you) and other people because it's easy and he can fulfill his needs without having a real relationship. Him knowing about your feelings for him do not mean that he's taking those feelings seriously. He's using you because he has power over you and because you "need" him... and it's time to say goodbye.

You think you're making progress every time he calls you for his booty-call but instead you're just opening yourself up to more heart ache. Who cares if he's satisfied or not with his girlfriend's sexual performance -- if you have any intention on being anything more than what guys in certain circles call a "side piece" then it doesn't matter WHAT he thinks - this is not "boyfriend" behaviour.

If you're 10 years older than him, you take the lead and be mature and drop him for your own sake.