[sonia7perez7]

Well I broke up.with my boyfriend . I'm tired of him being so jealous . Well he doesn't call it that , its "paranoid" . He gets mad if I laugh when I'm around guys , he gets mad if I look around when I'm with him . He's always asking me what I'm doing , if I forget one detail , he gets mad and call me a liar . I really do love him.but.I just feel guilty I feel like everything.is always my fault . I mean he always blaming everything on me and now I just believe him . I don't want to lose him . I know I broke up.with him today , but.I still want to be with him . What can I do so he won't get.mad at me anymore ? Was I wrong.for breaking up with him ? Am I acting selfish ? Because I know that he didn't want.to break up.with me , but was that selfish of me , thinking just about me , & not about.he would feel ? Please help me , I seriously don't.know what to do ?

[JK77]

You're not wrong at all! You have no reason to feel guilty or selfish for ending an unhealthy relationship. Jealousy and possessiveness can easily turn into physical abuse. He seems like he has issues and you did the right thing by getting away from him now. You need to look out for yourself. Those kinds of relationships never end well.

[odinn7]

It's funny... well, not "ha-ha" funny but you know... reading your question, I can see he already has you programmed to believe you are to blame for everything... to believe that you are wrong for getting away from him. You are so bad off that you can't really see that he is the one that is wrong.

This is not good at all. Breaking up with him was the right move, don't doubt yourself on that. You are not to blame for everything. He has issues that he needs to work on, not you.

In the long run, you are much better off without him. It may hurt right now but trust me, this situation isn't going to get any better and will likely just get worse. This is controlling and jealous behavior and he will continue to do it to you and it will get worse.

Walk away, don't look back, and someone that treats you right will come around soon enough.

[LadySam]

You were not wrong to break up with him, it seems that he has some control and trust issues that only he can deal with. You can't do that for him, and don't look for him to change that behavior.
He already has you right where he wants you, feeling guilty.
Leave him be and regain yourself confidence, right now you are so wrapped up in feeling bad for wanting more for yourself that you may not see the big picture.
Don't let him talk you back into the relationship, just don't have contact with him.
It won't be easy and for a while it will hurt, but in the long run you will be much better off.