[lostnick]

I started talking to my girlfriend 2 years ago. At the time we both weren't looking but then the feelings come out we talked over six months. Then lost contact. I was really down and didn’t want to get hurt either. She thought the same as me at the time. I didn’t speak she got very ill I went off with someone else in the meantime. And then we got back in contact and I was visiting her on a regular basis. She’s lives 4 hours from me but she was worth it.

Every time I went home she accused me of texting and typing to others on the computer. But since the day I meet her in person I have been all for her. And when she accused me it made me feel real low. I keep crying and can’t eat. I’d never play with someone’s heart like that. I last saw her three days ago and we slept together. She said she’s still in love with me and don’t want to lose me. But when I go back it’s like she’s don’t miss me.

We sorted it all out. Now she’s saying because someone said we were living together lets be friends yet we have spoken a lot till 4 in morning any advice would be great.

[talaniman]

I don't know how old you are, but I think the distance makes her very insecure, and maybe working something out to talk more, or a lot more regularly will help, but it's a hard time when you are apart a lot.

You can't make her trust you, she has to overcome her own fear and insecurities for that, but you can be firm and let her know you don't appreciate being accused of things you have not done. In addition, you could ask her why she feels this way when you are apart, as maybe she has bad experiences to get over from other relationships.

There is also the possibility she may be accusing you because she is hiding something. I don't know, but have seen it happen. Now before you get all shaky my friend and have fears and insecurities yourself, talk, and listen to her, and get the true story.

You haven't been a couple that long and she may just be a shaky emotional person. That makes it even harder for this long distance relationship to work, and communications is CRUCIAL, in building trust, as you get to know each others characters. It takes time and understanding and a lot of patience to build trust, especially if she has been hurt before.