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Andtmd18 · May 13, 2012, 12:14 AM

I have been married for nearly 10 years, together for 16 years. I now run a daycare from home started it 5 months ago. A dream I have put off for years and finally took that leap of faith. So my home is a licensed daycare... that means I need my home for work. We have a 5 year old and a 17 month old. 2nd baby was a beautiful surprise. Our marriage was basically over before we got pregnant with her. But lately my husband who is a functioning alcoholic, has been having anger issues in the evenings. Tonight I'm at a friends house, things got a little too heated and I need out. He absolutely won't leave, says he has no where to go, can't afford to get another place, won't live with his mom who lives 8 houses away. I have friends I can go to but I'm not the one with the anger issue and then on top of it I have to give up my daycare and put my kids back in daycare.

He won't seek help. Not for us or the alcohol, if he does it's just enough to gloss things over until he can't hold it in anymore. I should have called the cops tonight. It was bad enough. I finally packed the kids and left. I SO don't want to go this legal route with him, I'm trying to keep this from getting ugly. Very unsure of my next step. He is fine during the day, it's after 7/9pm after drinking more that he's a jerk. So the day care is safe, he's at work usually. But I don't want to go back unless he's gone which isn't going to happen, I have daycare in 30 hrs... at a freaking loss. I want out and I want this over. He doesn't care about me, he's not active in the kids lives, and he is constantly negative about everything in life!

talaniman · May 13, 2012, 03:06 PM

What a dilemma, BUT I don't think you have a choice but to seek legal remedies. Drunks are hardly reasonable, or logical. A restsraining order is a start.

Be safe.

cain1 · May 17, 2012, 12:44 AM

I'm a man and I'm telling you it could get nasty. When he is drunk ask him to leave but have you recorder going. If you call the cops he will get arrested and it will severe your relationship and effect your children but if you wish to stay there then that's the only way. You could try and negotiate something or go to his moms and stay there. Soon she will come get him I would think.