Ask Experts Questions for FREE Help !
Ask
    country_heart's Avatar
    country_heart Posts: 3, Reputation: 1
    New Member
    		  
    #1

    May 7, 2012, 05:49 PM
    Men confusing signals!
    Hey y'all! My name is Erica, I'm 17...
    I met this guy awile ago and I started to like him a lot I slowly got the courage to talk to him a lot more one on one..
    He lives about 4 hours from me I met him through my brother who lives by him but,
    At first is was kind of sext driven talk (how I kind of broke the ice with a 'hey sexy!' ) and we just messed about. But lately he's been talking about seeing me and coming to hang out when he has time off (he's 23). He's dropped a lot of the 'sext' stuff and put a sort of effort to know me... Kind of confusing me... Is he just a creep or dose he like me?
    talaniman's Avatar
    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
    Expert
    		  
    #2

    May 8, 2012, 08:08 AM
    His signals aren't confusing, he is softening his approach to see if you will give him sex, or just a young tease. That's what flirting with an older guy brings, attention, and curiosity, and lust. You turned him on, what guy wouldn't see if you were serious or not, because if you aren't he has no investment, its just something to do.

    Does he know you are just 17? Does your brother know his friend is talking to you? What does he say? Don't follow your heart with an older guy who gives you attention, and your confusion is about hoping he feels the same way, but don't know for sure.

    Don't assume he does. He probably doesn't. TOO SOON. Protect yourself until you know if he is a creep, or NOT! Thats my advice to a very young female that has attracted the attentions of an older guy by flirting and sexting.
    country_heart's Avatar
    country_heart Posts: 3, Reputation: 1
    New Member
    		  
    #3

    May 8, 2012, 09:32 AM
    Thank you very much for answering, he does know I'm only 17 and my brother is the one who gave me his number last time I was down to visit.
    I haven't thought of it that way makes a lot of sense. I Laied off talking to him in the last few days and he hasn't really tried laying of me, he texts me a lot.
    But I'm going to take your advice for sure and protect myself till I know his intentions. Thanks again
    talaniman's Avatar
    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
    Expert
    		  
    #4

    May 8, 2012, 09:42 AM
    You are more than welcome. Good luck, and be careful exploring, and experimenting.
    mmresd's Avatar
    mmresd Posts: 2,002, Reputation: 553
    Ultra Member
    		  
    #5

    May 8, 2012, 04:33 PM
    I agree with talaniman, testing the waters with you to see how far he can get.
Not your question? Ask your question View similar questions
 

Question Tools Search this Question
Search this Question:

Advanced Search

Add your answer here.


Check out some similar questions!

Confusing signals from a lad [ 3 Answers ]

hello, I like this guy and I think he likes me, but I think he's getting bored of me. We are the total opposite but when we are together everything feel perfect. I only see him a few times a week in work, and after that it was always just texting, and the occasional pub trip with a loada others...

Confusing Signals [ 12 Answers ]

So I've been going on dates with this guy for around two months now. A couple weeks ago, he started acting distant and I asked him why. His response was that he was being distant because he felt like we took things too quickly and wanted to slow things down. He said he wanted to hang out just as...

Confusing musical signals [ 7 Answers ]

I perform music (guitar) with a female singer who I am emotionally involved with. I don't want a "relationship" with her (and I am too "old" for her) but adore performing music with her. People tell us we have a unique synergy. I feel she is playing head games with me and has no boundaries. She is...

View more questions Search