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kumar · Mar 5, 2007, 06:35 AM

Wrong Gift! :confused:
If I receive a gift which I didn't like / not to my taste,
Should I keep mum so not to heart the feelings of person who has given me the gift?
Or
Should I tell the person that I did't like his/her gift without hearting his/her feelings... how?

(If I keep mum then what should I do with the Gift which is not to my taste?):confused:

Krs · Mar 5, 2007, 06:37 AM

What do u mean - "should i keep mum so not to heart the feelings of person who has given me the gift"

Im confused...

RubyPitbull · Mar 5, 2007, 06:40 AM

There is an old expression: "Don't look a gift horse in the mouth." Meaning, when you are given a gift, keep mum.

A gift is just that. A gift. To tell someone you don't like something they have given to you with the best of intentions, is very hurtful to that person. Just thank them for their generosity. Depending on what the gift is, you can return it to the store for cash or store credit, depending on what the store's policy is. With store credit, choose something you do like. Or, you can donate it to a charity of your choice. Or you can regift it, rewrap it and give to someone else when you have a party or birthday present to purchase. Just make sure you don't give it back to the person who bought it for you.

Hope this helps.

valinors_sorrow · Mar 5, 2007, 06:41 AM

Keep mum and don't tell them your true feelings, it will only hurt theirs and with little point to be gained. Simply say thank you and set the gift aside.

(Winks at Ruby because we did it again! LOL)

Krs · Mar 5, 2007, 06:42 AM

Oh oh OK, now I get it sorry :(

I agree, keep the gift!
Don't say nothing, just thank u

RubyPitbull · Mar 5, 2007, 06:42 AM

krs, keeping mum means keeping quiet. Keeping your mouth shut. Not say anything to the other person. It is an expression.:)

P.S. Sorry krs. This all was posted almost at the same time!

kumar · Mar 5, 2007, 07:00 AM

Originally Posted by Krs

what do u mean - "should i keep mum so not to heart the feelings of person who has given me the gift"

Im confused...

I hope the next two Ans to my Q will solve your doubt too!

Thanks Krs

Capuchin · Mar 5, 2007, 07:03 AM

The phrase has an interesting etymology.

It's actually a case of onomatopoeia.

"muuuuuuummmm" is the only sound you can make with your mouth closed ;)

kumar · Mar 5, 2007, 07:03 AM

Sorry 4 late reply.

kumar · Mar 5, 2007, 07:10 AM

Sorry 4 late reply Mr.Krs

Krs · Mar 5, 2007, 07:12 AM

Mrs ;)

kumar · Mar 5, 2007, 07:30 AM

Originally Posted by Krs

Mrs ;)

Sorry Mrs Krs.

Capuchin · Mar 5, 2007, 07:32 AM

Lady Krs.

Krs · Mar 5, 2007, 07:36 AM

;) now I like that... Lady Krs :D hehehe

kumar · Mar 5, 2007, 08:01 AM

[QUOTE=RubyPitbull]

... Or you can re gift it, rewrap it and give to someone else when you have a party or birthday present to purchase.

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Hello RubyPitbull,

Going through again to your Ans, I have one doubt in my mind that if we go through what you said above... will some one else will not have bad image for us for giving him/her a "Wrong Gift":confused:

Capuchin · Mar 5, 2007, 08:07 AM

I think the phrase you need here is "One man's trash is another man's treasure"

Depends what it is really, but your friend thought you would like it, so I'm sure you can find someone who will like it

tinsign · Mar 5, 2007, 08:27 AM

Keep the gift there is no since in hurting someone, what if later they ask to view the gift?
You can always just keep it put away out of sight till they come to visit the display it.

RubyPitbull · Mar 5, 2007, 08:56 AM

[QUOTE=kumar]

Originally Posted by RubyPitbull

..... Or you can re gift it, rewrap it and give to someone else when you have a party or birthday present to purchase.

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Hello RubyPitbull,

Going through again to ur Ans, i have one doubt in my mind that if we go through what u said above......will some one else will not have bad image for us for giving him/her a "Wrong Gift":confused:

As Capuchin stated, the givers of the gift must have thought it was something you would like. Think about one of your friends or relatives who might really appreciate it. Unless of course, the gift was given with not a very nice intent behind it.:confused: Can you tell us what it is that you received? Maybe we can come up with some better suggestions.

Tinsign, by the way, I understand what you are saying but it is obvious that Kumar doesn't like it. Although we don't like to hurt the people we care about, sometimes holding onto something just to keep someone from feeling hurt is not always the best solution. What if the giver thinks Kumar really loved it? Then, depending on what it is, they may keep giving the same kind of gift? I have seen that happen. And, who knows? Maybe he lives in a small space and has no place to put it in storage. The main concern here is that he doesn't tell the giver that he doesn't like it. That would be too hurtful. Unless of course, it was given as a joke or in a mean-spirited sort of way. Then, I would rewrap it and give it back to the person who gave it to me when it is their birthday or anniversary.

I worked with someone for whom I intentionally bought the tackiest gift I could find when I was on vacation, as a joke. When he went on vacation, he did the same to me. It went back and forth for a few years. We both wanted to see who could find the worst gift! It was a lot of fun. But, in the end, when we left the company we worked for, neither of us felt badly about throwing the gifts away. Too bad. They probably are worth something today! :p

So Kumar, do you want to tell us what it is and what occasion it was for? As I said, we might have some better solutions for you. :)

kumar · Mar 6, 2007, 10:48 PM

Originally Posted by RubyPitbull

.........So Kumar, do you want to tell us what it is and what occasion it was for? As I said, we might have some better solutions for you. :)

RubyPitbull... The occasion was marriage anniversary & the friend of my brother-in-law gifted me a branded shirt, having a small, patchwork near the wrist!:mad:
(Was I am at fault to invite the friend of my brother-in-law….who may have thought the same way as I am thinking it now?):confused:
Thanks 4 taking a keen interest in my Q.

RubyPitbull · Mar 7, 2007, 06:14 AM

I am trying to make sense of this. He gave you a shirt and it had been stitched or sewn at the wrist from a possible tear in it or is it just a patchwork design at the sleeve? I am not really sure what a branded shirt is unless you mean a name brand shirt? Do you think it was used or was it just something you view as a really tacky shirt and just don't like?

Kumar, to answer your question, possibly the friend of your brother-in-law regifted this because someone gave it to him or the guy also hated it, or didn't have the money, or didn't have the desire to buy a gift and wrapped one of his shirts!

The good news here is that since this is not someone you are close with or that you will see too often, you don't have to worry about keeping it, if you hate it. I would suggest donating it to a charity that accepts clothes. I don't know where you live, but if you are in the U.S. you can deduct the value of the shirt as a charitable deduction on your taxes. You could donate the shirt to Goodwill or Salvation Army. That is what I would personally do, and actually have done, with a piece of clothing I don't like. If it is a used shirt and it has been sewn at the sleeve due to a rip, if it is in good shape, you can still donate it. If it is not in good shape, frankly, I would either use it as a rag or throw it away.

In any event, if you hate it that much, don't regift it to someone else. Get rid of it in one of the ways I have suggested now.

I hope this helps.