[Yanny]

My baby is currently 4month old staying with his father's sister which is 500km away from me and his father. I'm a nursing student and will be qualifying in June. The father of my baby is also a nurse,he is very much active and involve in providing for the baby but he also have a bad habbit of heavy drinking, he will even go to work drunk. There isn't a day he will spend without getting drunk and when he is drunk he hallucinate and loves fighting. There were a couple of times he even laid his hands on me. Now I don't know what to do because he is supportive towards the baby, my family does not approve the baby and I'm not financially equipped to care for my baby alone. The baby is under his father's name, so I'm wondering if I should fight for the right of my baby because I'm scared that he will come and hurt me in the process. There is no doubt he loves his baby but his drinking is really affecting my life and eventually the baby's upbring.

[cdad]

You need to go to court to make things formal. Bring it to the courts attention that he is a drinker and he can choose between his child and booze. Also get orders for custody and child support. If any trouble arises from it then file restraining orders. You need to protect your child.

[joypulv]

June isn't far away. You need to start now. You can't live in fear of him hurting you and you can try to get his family (and him) to appreciate that you just want the court to formalize the arrangements, hopefully mutually agreeable. You could end up being the working mother with a stable home and good finances, while he could lose his nursing license and be the one who can't provide. You never know...