[Lostlife]

Hi, my boyfriend who I am dating for 9 months lied to me about a lady friend. She works in the road where he stays and he said he just greets her like "how are and have a nice day" etc. But after asking him questions about her I found out that he knew more than what he told me. He knows she dsnt have a boyfriend what shifts she work and wher she lives etc. He even went that far to ask her to work with them when they have functions which she agreed to. He does waiter work only Saturday's. He denies that he feels anything for her and swears that he didn't want to cheat on me and that he would never and that he is sorry for lying. I don't have any reason to think that he played me while we were together as he is with me after work and he even comes visit me in the moring before work. He is a really nice guy and I've know him since 2006 even though we weren't in arelationship, I don't know him as a lady kind of guy. He was always single and I am the firt girl he took home and he is my first, we both 27. Ever since we started dating he cries all the time because he is afraid of losing me and he wants to be with me for the rest of his life. Now recently I dreamt about my mother who past away many years ago, in the dream she warns me that my boyfrined is messing with me. He lives near me and he finishes work half past six we see each other every night 7 o'clock, and he dsnt have a car so I have no idea how he can make time for anybody else if he is with me all the time.

I really don't know if I should dump him because he lied about the girl and the fact that my mother is warning me about him makes it worst. It is not easy as I have no valid proof that he is cheating or anything. It still bothers me that he lied to me about the girl?

[I wish]

If he doesn't have any feelings for her, it shouldn't have been a problem for him to tell you about her.

It sounds to me that he has a lost of security and trusting issues. It's something that he needs to work on and it's not your responsibility to do that for him.

At this point, its for you to decide whether you have it in you to be patient to see if he can work on his personal problems. It's not fair to you to have to wait forever for him. So you're going to have to decide how much you really like him.

But since the trust is shaken because he wasn't able to tell you the truth, you will have to proceed with caution if you decide to stay together.

[loverd]

Mothers always try to instigate something.
You should try to go talk to this girl and be like, hey I heard you have a really great friendship with my boyfriend. Maybe you'll become friends too?
What I mean is, you have to keep you friends close, but you enemy's closer.
So be on top of them both, make them feel like you are the boss.
Good luck!