[Lovemeforever]

Okay so it started at the beginning when my mom found out my friends family had a bad background. I guess her brother isn't a very good person. She said u can't go to her house anymore so I was mad but she said she can come to my house

That's when it got bad... so she came over and she was playing with me and my brother but then she pulled hid pants down(as a joke cause we were all joking around) then my mom walked in and saw and I said it was all my fault (defending my friend) and my brother ALWAYS tells the truth so he said that it was my friend and my mom got so mad at me for lying then she also blamed my friend for lying. Then my mom absolutely hated her.

Then it got worse, he got in a big fight with my other friend and my mom found out about the fight threw another mother and he picked my other friends side and them my friend put pictures on Instagram of her conversation with my other friend (which I understand was rude) but my mom found out about the threw the same mom and I want to be friends with everyone and not pick sides but my mom said I'm not machore and that this girl is a terrible influence. The police found out about the whole instagram thing and told my mom that the FAMILY is a bad influence not her but for my mom my friend is actually scary.

I love this friend forever and ever and we have been threw soooooo many good times and we have so many inside jokes and I'm so sad I've had nonstop crying but my mom doesn't care. Someone help! What should I say to my mom to let me hang out with her again! H e l p! Oh my!

[DoulaLC]

One of jobs of a parent is to protect their child... whether they like it or not. Your mother is doing just that. I understand that you don't see it that way however. You see it as she is keeping you from being with your friend. But look at it from what your mother has seen:

Your friend has lied to your mother. Which is what she did when she let you take the blame by not speaking up and your brother had to. You have to realize that your friend hasn't made the best choices to try and show herself in a better light.

What sort of fight did she get into? Yelling at each other or did it become physical? If the police are saying the family is a bad influence, you can be sure that they know more of what has gone on than you do.

Sadly, it may be that your friend is just caught up in the mess of those in her family. Unfortunately she may not have had much opportunity to learn better behavior from home.

I don't think there is anything you can say that will change your mother's mind. She doesn't want to take the chance that you might get caught up in some of the bad choices as well.

You might have better luck with letting your friend know the concerns about her behavior and she can then decide whether she wants to make some changes so people will start to see her in a better light.

[Redrocky100]

I think your mom should just relax and calm down. Yeah I have no clue what her personality(ur friend) she may be a bad influence or she just made a simple mistake at the wrong time your mom saw. Everyone makes mistakes big ones and little ones your friend I am guessing has good intentions just it goes the wrong way sometimes I know you are most likely NOT going to take my advice but if you can build up the courage talk to her or your dad if he is able too (I don't know your situation do if you CAN talk to your dad) I hope I helped a bit.