[mountainwater]

Hi guys.. I been going out with this guy for over a year, the first half was very sweet, we spent a lot of time doing EVERYTHING together, but we started to argue more and more for the second half of year, I guess I'm normally the one who start the arguments... he told me I have changed a lot after being with him (I agreed with most things he said) I'm now a very dependent, angry person and I get sad with him very easily... that is totally opposite to how I was before. And I'm trying very hard to fix this problem...

Just recently he suggested we should go on break (he mentioned this few times before, I agreed with him this time since I can feel that he really mean it)... The first few days was fine, he'd send me emails/text to see how I am, and call me before bed to say goodnight (he might just being nice, because my granddad just past away few days ago)... but two days ago I heard nothing from him, only when I text him once he replied and no phone calls in bed time last night until I phoned...

He got given a lot of work to do from his job and he is doing this very difficult exam along side... so he is working day and night and weekends now... I don't want to add more stress on his shoulders... I asked if it would be easier for him to just end our relationship... he didn't give me a straight answer, just told me that we are on break that's it...

I haven't seen him for a week now, I miss him every second when I'm awake, and dream of him in my sleep... I love this guy a lot and I want to make this work... but I don't know what I should do... totally cut contact with him for now so he can concentrate on work or what? I worry that from doing that he might just forget about me...

I do feel like I'm unwanted... any help would be much appreciated. Thanks.

[talaniman]

I think working on YOUR issues of starting arguments, being needy, angry, and dependent is what you should be doing. I don't think he could take you emotionally overwhelming him. That's why he needed a break right? Add to that your own personal tragedy, it probably got even worse.

Worry less about him, and more about how you could deal with things better. Keeping him should not be the goal, as hurtful, and disappointing as this is. You have suffered some heavy losses, and need some time for yourself so you can regroup, and rethink. Leave him alone until then.

[mountainwater]

Thanks for your reply :)) I have been handling my emotions quite well for the past 2/3 weeks. Hopefully I can keep this going.