[Fr_Chuck]

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English please,

[sean_s]

"" my brain says I should leave to fulfill the deadline at least ""

Im 48 / dad of three daughters whos mother did the same thing to me and our daughters for ""OVER 16 years" togather...>>>Im now a single dad & Im seeing other women and going out w/ them for dinner,movies, ect...YOU should leave to fulfill your life w/ someone who will love you-for-you, not lie to you or anything that would make you feel doing yourself IN.....( SHE'S ) NOT THE ONLY WOMEN OUT THERE !!!

GOD made this world and Like this fish in the sea >>> there's more then just one women out there....

kytcd6
USA...

Well, I wish you meet someone for you too very soon.

This was a test about my basic properties I guess. About my capability of loveing someone, crossing all my boundaries, I guess. It was a test which I failed. The failure shows I probably am NOT dedicated enough to her as much as I wanted to. This is what makes me sad.

My point of life was to be worthy of the inspiration said she would offer me ("i will / want to inspire you"), now that I don't have that goal, I feel pointless in life.

[talaniman]

We all feel that way after a break up. But we heal, recover, get our strength back, and get to the next challenge, obstacle, event in our lives. Trust me break ups suck for all of us, but we survive, and thrive.

Now do as we tell you and get back to enjoying this reality, this dimension. Sometime it hurts, sometimes its fun.

[Alty]

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English please,

Sorry Chuck, I started it.

I can translate it for you if you want. It wasn't anything that broke site rules, but I do agree, since everyone on this thread does speak English, we should stick to that.

Just so you know, what I wrote in my post translates to "Everything has an end, only a wiener has two". :)

[talaniman]

Exactly, I faced a HARD system breakdown. I always told myself i will make better next time. but with my "love", i can not really say that... I am 22. I had more breakup than my age. my first breakup hurt me, my second last breakup hurt me, but i managed to wipe that out in 48 hours, without any support from anyone.

this time, i am really having an unrecoverable system error

Reboot, and re input pertinent data. Time for full system recovery, 6 months. 96 hours is unreasonable. Disregard faulty data.

[mmresd]

it is not that irrelevant. I would like to make myself a better lover, to whom one does not need to lie. that is why i am bugged. In fact a better person, who does not have to be lied.

This is not my first breakup. I compromised my exams for a woman, but i did not care when she broke up mch. In fact, i did not ever care with any breakup .

AND what do you think i am doing. I am postponing my death for 8 days → does that not automatically mean i am trying to do something already that takes my "energy out" : the question was to convince me to do that at all. The problem is i can not convince myself for anything, since the lies hurt me to such a point where i doubt my own definition of myself.

i am not posting the question to remain IDLE. I am posting the question to find a meaning of things i am doing....



Thanks for your time anyway

A better lover? Only with practice.

And the "energy out" was to keep your mind busy. Prolonging any type of suicide only means you are prolonging the most cowardly action know to mankind. Giving up on everything completely.

Lies hurt... move on, everyone lies, it is part of being human. Why bother going crazy over something you have no control over? Do the things you can with the things that you are ABLE to do, don't obsess yourself with the things you can't do anything with.

The remaining idle is to help you get over this situation, and it is the only way to heal from something like this... letting time pass by.

[sean_s]

A better lover? Only with practice.

Hehehehehhe
I did not mean it in an italian way. Lol, if you know what I mean, I meant , in a symbolic way , someone who is more precise to his lover with statements and actions.

Ja, I am busy, but I ma performing so BADly... I can feel my heart literally bleeds... Like the same sensation all over the body, as if, I got cuts all over..

[Alty]

hehehehehhe
i did not mean it in an italian way. lol, if you know what i mean, i meant , in a symbolic way , someone who is more precise to his lover with statements and actions.

ja, i am busy, but i ma performing so BADly... i can feel my heart literally bleeds... Like the same sensation all over the body, as if, i got cuts all over..

Love hurts. It hurts in every way. It hurts when you're in love, it hurts when the love is gone, it hurts when the person you love hurts you. Even people that have been married for years, very much in love, hurt each other.

A breakup is hard. I remember many times when I felt exactly as you're feeling right now. I remember wanting to end it all because the pain was too much.

I know this sounds like cliché, but it's true. I'm so glad that I didn't end my life because of some jerk that didn't deserve me to begin with. Because I did live, I found love. I found the love of my life. We've been together more than half our lives, and we're still very much in love.

When you find real love, it will all be worth it. But you have to live in order to find it. You have to get through this tough spot, find the strength we all know you have, and then try again. The next girl may break your heart too. So may the one after that. But you can't give your heart to someone if you're not willing to have it broken. One day you'll meet someone that loves you as much as you love them. That's a promise.

Right now you just have to get through this bad time. Is that too much of a challenge for you? Considering all the other things you've accomplished, is this going to be the thing you can't overcome? I don't think so.

[mmresd]

hehehehehhe
i did not mean it in an italian way. lol, if you know what i mean, i meant , in a symbolic way , someone who is more precise to his lover with statements and actions.

ja, i am busy, but i ma performing so BADly... i can feel my heart literally bleeds... Like the same sensation all over the body, as if, i got cuts all over..

I did mean it in a symbolic way, only practice will make you better at loving, also true for making you better at the act of making love.

A recent break up makes your whole body ache that is true, like I said: Time will take that away.

[joypulv]

Before I went to medical school for one person I would want to know if that person really had the condition she says she has. For all you know she really doesn't (for one thing, dysautonomia is a broad term, so why didn't she call it what it was?), and that's why she broke up with you.
Here we are, last day.
How are you?

[sean_s]

Well she did not know I had this, it was supposed to be a surprise for her :) once I get accepted to the pharmaceutical training first.

[J_9]

Sean, am I correct in assuming that the two of you are in different countries and that you have never met fact-to-face?

[sean_s]

Sean, am I correct in assuming that the two of you are in different countries and that you have never met fact-to-face?

Indeed - if you do not count two years of remaining a shoulder to cry on...

[joypulv]

I mean how do you know she really has it?
And why are you so painfully generous?

[sean_s]

I mean how do you know she really has it?
And why are you so painfully generous?

Don't know, I was ready to do anything for her.

[J_9]

indeed - if you do not count two years of remaining a shoulder to cry on ...

Okay, so here goes to cold hard truth. Most likely you were just an internet affair for her. Unless you spend actual quality time with her in person and in real life you don't know what is going on when she is offline. Most likely she was available to you when it was convenient for her. It is very possible that her significant other found out what was going on after this lengthy affair and she found a way to break it off with you so as to keep her relationship.

Is there a reason why you are meeting women over the internet rather than in person?

[sean_s]

Okay, so here goes to cold hard truth. Most likely you were just an internet affair for her. Unless you spend actual quality time with her in person and in real life you don't know what is going on when she is offline. Most likely she was available to you when it was convenient for her. It is very possible that her significant other found out what was going on after this lengthy affair and she found a way to break it off with you so as to keep her relationship.

Is there a reason why you are meeting women over the internet rather than in person?

I am looking for someone who can match me. Hehe, in real life as well as in the internet. Here is a list of what I want: http://www.experienceproject.com/stories/Am-Sick-Of-Being-Single/2179480

Of course this is intended to be a stupidity, but well, not everyone around the corner can offer me what I am looking for. This one apparently gave me what I was looking for.

[Wondergirl]

I am looking for someone who can match me. hehe, in real life as well as in the internet.

A friend asked a gentleman how it is that he never married.

Replied the gentleman, “Well, I guess I just never met the right woman … I guess I’ve been looking for the perfect girl.”

“Oh, come on now,” said the friend, “Surely you have met at least one girl that you wanted to marry.”

“Yes, there was one girl … once. I guess she was the one perfect girl … the only perfect girl I really ever met. She was just the right everything … I really mean that she was the perfect girl for me.”

“Well, why didn’t you marry her,” asked the friend.

“She was looking for the perfect man,” he said.

[sean_s]

A friend asked a gentleman how it is that he never married.

Replied the gentleman, “Well, I guess I just never met the right woman … I guess I’ve been looking for the perfect girl.”

“Oh, come on now,” said the friend, “Surely you have met at least one girl that you wanted to marry.”

“Yes, there was one girl … once. I guess she was the one perfect girl … the only perfect girl I really ever met. She was just the right everything … I really mean that she was the perfect girl for me.”

“Well, why didn’t you marry her,” asked the friend.

“She was looking for the perfect man,” he said.

indeed!!


that writing is intended to be stupidity, where I list my expectations :)

but, I am a bit picky than to go with any random woman, whom you hit in a bar and so on. I am looking for a long term relationship , where we nurture each other.

For that long term goal, I guess, it is worth to make sure that

1. she is not abusive (I experienced that, abusive not as dominant, but abusive as traumatizing)

2. she is willing to stay with me, despite, among others

1. my diet of frog and snail hehe
2. habit of traveling to nowhere
3. my music taste which includes, among others, JS Bach, and excludes some ULTRAmodern pop artists...

3. we can hold a conversation (that is, not someone who bulls in the name of everything, experienced that too)

Is that too much to expect?

[Wondergirl]

Is that too much to expect?

Again, I ask, what will she get from you?