[laymenblacklace]

So I’ve been talking to this guy for about 7 months. We are not together. I really like this guy and I know he likes me as well. But there is one problem... his ex girl friend. He lives with her and his friend. (For your information)- They do not do anything together. I know for a fact. All he sees her as is a friend and that's it. He wants to kick her out but if he does that, she won’t have anywhere to go.

She keeps saying that she’s going to have kids with him. Mind you, they have not done anything for that to happen. She also said that if he makes her leave, then she is going to kill herself and even if he does make her leave, she will make sure that he is with her.

I don't understand this girl. I think she is a little messed up in the head but I don't know. She honestly thinks they are together but they’re not. I see this girl all the time and she sees me with him. I don't know what to do. Sometimes I just want to give up on this, but I really like this guy. What should I do?

[J_9]

She isn't yours to get rid of. You can either accept their relationship or move on.

[laymenblacklace]

He wants to get rid of her too. But he feels bad for her...

[Stellaw]

Just don't mind her. She's obviously jealous of you because you're with him now. Jealous people might do everything in their power to manipulate people and get them to agree with them. They're pathetic really but it would be better if you just don't care. Treat her like she's invisible. There's nothing else that you could do about it because there are things that are just out of your grasp. Eventually, she'll be out of your lives but for now, keep it cool.

You'll end up losing the one you love or end up getting angry while she's laughing at you and just living the life. She could tell people negative stuff about you because she can. But even if she's in the process of making an army, do not mind her. Don't care about the people that believes her too. You do not need their patronage. Trust me, if she's saying that she'll kill herself if he makes her leave, she must be doing a lot of other things that you don't know. She wants you gone, and if you'll give up, then you're giving her what she wants. Fight back by playing it cool. Two can play that game.

[MediuminTrainin]

This honestly sounds like a situation where you need to take a step back and realize that you are going to be put in a place of constant drama, sure you like this guy, but give it time, don't try to be with him now and take time for yourself and be a friend to him, trying to force the situation now will and probably will lead in failure because you will be starting a relationship with a conflict, what you should do is go into this with a complete clear head, what I do usually when I get in a situation like this is take a step back to past mistakes and people I have done wrong and try to come to an amends with them, the reason I say this is because if you you clear all bad ties with people in your past Karma will usually work in your favor to give you what you want now. I've been in the exact situation except it was a girl instead of a guy. What I did was I looked back onto myself took a good look at all the things I have done to see if I took a plunge into a conflict will Karma be my favor. I think if you want it to work than you need to reflect not only on the friendship you and him have, but what you could do to clear that karma template so you can have a successful relationship. The reason Im throwing the karma spill out there is because when I was in this exact situation I had just broken up with an ex because I lost it for her, I came out with an excuse and tried to find the best way out possible, but I didn't think of her feelings just my own, I than ended up taking a plunge into this conflict and It fell apart not only because of the conflict with the ex of hers but because every possible thing that could go wrong did. P.S. (I am actually a medium) I could definitively feel some tension from this post and just from the way its kind of written out U have a lot of negative karma coming off you so clear all ties now if you want this to work!

[talaniman]

I think you wait until he handles his business properly because romance and drama don't mix very well. Matter of fact you would do well to tell him you have no time for a guy who doesn't handle his business, nor knows HOW!

Saves a lot of confusion that way.

[JudyKayTee]

I'd totally removed myself from the drama. She is getting something out of the relationship. He is also getting something out of it.

I'd walk away until he gets HIS situation solved. This is not your problem.

[Homegirl 50]

This is his problem and if he wanted to deal with it, he would. I'd leave him alone. There is the potential for too much drama here.