[starlasky]

Hey,
Long story short, I am from UK, ex was from Germany. Met in Australia. Spent every single day together for 14 months. Minus 6weeks when we flew home. I met his family, he met mine. Came back to Australia and he got work instantly, it took me 2 months. Living in hostels sharing our room took its toll. I was reliant on him and hated it. I hit rock bottom and would lash out at him for stupid stuff like making me breakfast. He made me feel like I couldn't do anything by myself. Which is wrong. He was just trying to prove how much I meant to him.

I got negative toward the relationship and threatened to walk away many of times. He always said he would never let me go and I need to accept his love. I pushed him to far and he asked me to go. Its been 3 weeks and in that time we have met up 5 times. Each time he says its over and to stop fighting for him. He said its hard to know he feels loved by me. I said if it's the other way round he wouldn't give up and he agreed. He fought so hard for me as I was against a relationship due to traveling.

Every time we meet he tells me he loves me, we kiss and he says he needs time but says later he confirms he never wants to see me again. I know it's commitment issues, I pushed him to this. But we came back over together and I can't just give up? Any advice?

[talaniman]

The fact that your are still meeting, and talking may mean he is giving you a chance to regain his trust and confidence which you have thoroughly destroyed. I don't blame him for being very very cautious with you. Will he change his mind? Who can know, but its your behavior that must be changed, whether he wants to take a chance on you or NOT!

Put your best foot forward, and stop the immature, impulsive antics, and hope for the best, but plan for the worst.