[Beatler]

3 years ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years, she said she wasn't happy and I was reluction to let her go. A week later I met someone else, we started dating and grew from there. 3 months passed and me and ex started talking again. She didn't date anyone one after 3 years of off and on with the current girlfriend I start to miss my EX. My current girlfriend is great, I love her personality, her family but I feel no connection sexually to her and she's starting to notice that stuff isn't happening as often. My ex has moved on and is in another relationship, she almost had a baby and aborted it and it disgusted me, I guess cause I felt that it should have been mine and I would had her keep it. But now I can't stop thinking of my EX, in my dreams everywhere I go I think of her... I know its bad and maybe it's the idea that once its gone you miss it most. I consider daily to just destroy all of my ex's belongings that I kept in a box and stop all communication with her? Or what should I do?

[Fr_Chuck]

You are in love with a memory and no one can ever compete with that.

You also sound like when you start getting into a longer term relationship you may even start looking for a "way out" and not even know it.

But you need to move on, talking with an ex, keeping things of an ex is not healthy and you will never be giving all of yourself into a relationship if you don't.

Next if you love this newer relationship, then work on the relationship, and honest 3 years is very short term, I have had periods of over a year where a relationship seemed very bad, but with work, they get better.

If you expect a relationship to always be great, it won't happen, you will spend a lot of times making up or not even knowing why you are in trouble.