[maninblack5]

Me and my girlfriend have been going out for nearly a year now but she broke up with me, claiming I was bad, mean and selfish. However, I did everything for her. Near the beginning, her family got involved and threatened me if I did not break up with her. I said I would never. They threatened her too and she didn't break up with me either. Well we started arguing near the end over trust things but always ended with us trusting each other. I was always the one to solve arguments. She said, after the breakup, that she still had a small feelings for me but not enough. Three days later she said those feelings were gone completely. We were to go to a concert but she broke up with me so I couldn't go but she invited me. I said yes. We went, argued over what had happened but ended up being back to good friends. Then when the music was playing, she went to my ear to speak because it was loud and then she kissed my cheek. I kissed her cheek back. Then we hugged. Then we started doing this weird nose touching thing as a game. We touched lips and kissed for a second. I was confused. We ended up doing that nose thing many times and then kissed properly another twice. Then we were getting a drive home and she cuddled into me and we had the most passionate kissing ever. She said she had small feelings for me but didn't want to go out. Although, she said the liked the kissing and missed it. What is going on and what should I do?

[DoulaLC]

It sounds as though she got caught up in feeling good with being close and kissing. Take her at her word, she just missed it. Unfortunately it sent you a mixed message.

If she doesn't want to go out, there isn't anything you can do. It is understandable that she has some feelings still, you had gone out for awhile, but the last thing you want is to go back and forth with her. It will drive you crazy with frustration, confusion, and heartache.

Don't contact her. If, after some time she contacts you, see how you feel about the situation. Listen to her reasons, but be careful not to get drawn back into a relationship if she isn't 100% committed to it. Otherwise you will likely find yourself where you are now again.

In the meantime, spend time with friends and family. Go out and have some fun. Odds are, sooner or later, you will meet someone you would like to go out with and get to know better.

[talaniman]

When you can't enjoy the moment, without it confusing you, then its time to leave her alone and get your head on straight. That's why we disappear when we get dumped, just for self defense against confusion, which will keep us stuck in the good old times and wishing they would come back.

[confusedchild8]

I think she is just enjoying having you after her. Leave it be and see what she does, don't go after her, she might come around, or then again she might just be having some fun, either way going out for almost a year mean you have really strong feelings for her, however you still seem very young, enjoy life, don't take it too seriously. Let her come to you.