[WAgirl56]

My fiancé called our wedding off over three months ago! He acted like a complete *** when he did it. Which I thought was super mean of him but actually turn out to be super helpful in my healing process. Because every time I would see my ex I could easily remember what an *** he was to me and the man that I saw was not the one I was going to marry!

But after three months of no real contact, my ex text me and told me he was thinking about me and 'hope you are doing well and I miss u'. Then he told me that he was sorry for what happened and sometimes wishes he could go back but 'what happened happened' and he then said 'i hope the best for you'. This confuses me!

I love my ex and would want nothing more than to have him in my arms. I forgive him and know he made a mistake! We were together four years! My question is should I ask him if he wants to try and work things out? If he didn't want to try why is he being so nice and sincere? I know it was cold feet that made us break up... I know he realizes he made a mistake! What should I do?

[I wish]

Sounds like your thoughts are all over the place. It's time to back away from the situation. I suggest you be single for a while so that you can really sort out what you want before jumping back into anything with anyone.

It sounds like you just want to grab on to any relationship for the sake of being with someone, rather than really figuring out what you really want and going for it.

Keep in mind that there is a reason that you broke up with these two in the first place. If things haven't changed from the first break up, then things will only blow up again.

It's better to be much more sure of yourself before you jump into the next relationship whoever it may be.

[WAgirl56]

I have grown so much over the past fe months and I do know what I really want! I want him back. We had some ups and downs but I was happy with him. Waiting any longer will only make things worse in my opinion.
I have been given advice from a counselor that recommends I go for it! He feels that my ex is afraid to make the first move and think I shouldn't waste any more time. Plus I guess if he doesn't what to work on things it just means I need to move on

[talaniman]

I say let him grow to, and make up his mind and express what he wants to you.

This guy can hurt you, has done so before, so if nothing else, be cautious and see what he wants.

[WAgirl56]

I love him and what to see if he would consider working things out! Is it worth asking? I know that if I don't find out or don't at least try he will always have a hook in my heart... (a very wise person told who knows the situation very well me that)!

[JudyKayTee]

He said he's sorry that what happened did happen - and there's no taking it back. He appears sorry about the breakup but makes no mention of resuming the relationship.

You made a casual contact, he responded back without any attempt at reconciling - you have your answer.

He's out of the relationship.

You've asked this 4 times. I have asked that those posts be combined. Nothing is any different in any of the posts, there is no new info and adding new threads doesn't add anything to the question.

[talaniman]

You really do not want to accept his actions and just let go, so you may have no choice but take the risk and find your answers the hard way, by ASKING HIM!!

Hope for the best, prepare fore the worst, and good luck.