[Question2]

I have a friend who gets mad at me over the dumbest things. I have been friends with her for year but honestly it's starting to become more than I can handle. Although we have fun together and we do a lot for one another I'm starting to feel like were married or something. I can't tell her when I'm hanging out with other friends because when I do she always seems to have an attitude. When I try to talk to her about why she gets mad she always brushes it under the rug or ignores me .I am one of her only really good friends who is a female, no one else wants to be bothered with her because of her attitude and disposition. I feel like I'm getting too old for this, I don't want to lose her as a friend but I'm tired of her trying to make it seem like everything is my fault when in all actuality I'm not doing anything wrong! What would you do?

[DoulaLC]

If I couldn't talk to her about it, because she wouldn't listen or take what I had to say seriously, I would let the friendship fade. You could remain friendly, and still do things together now and then, but focus on building other friendships. With some distance, you won't have to have as many encounters with her fault finding.

You could write her a letter and share your thoughts and feelings. Perhaps she is uncomfortable talking about problems. Let her read it, have time to think about it, and see what response you get.

If she ever asks why you seem a bit distant, let her know exactly how you have been feeling. It may be that she has to be the one to notice the change in the relationship and start talking to you about it.