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    blindlove Posts: 11, Reputation: 1
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    #1

    Mar 20, 2012, 10:50 AM
    I have a crush on my teacher..
    What should I do? I thInk I am in love wIth my teacher because I keep thInkIng about hIm all the tIme. He Is just amazIng, nIce and young. We always chat In the begInnIng of the lesson (I have hIm for IndIvIdual).

    He told me he starts datIng a gIrl, hIs problems wIth her, or even about theIr date. Last tIme he asked me what am I goIng to do durIng the weekend.. I answered that I am going to have a sleep over at my frIend's house (her house) and then he randomly saId "hIs house?"

    It was so weIrd because he dIdn't even know do I have a boyfrIend or not. Once I told hIm that I had just broken up wIth my boyfrIend, he saId he guessed that boy must feel sad because lost a gIrlfrIend lIke me and then he started talkIng about hIs last relatIonshIps and that he doesn't lIke breakIng up blah blah..

    I wonder does he lIke me or he Is just too openness to tell everybody about hIs prIvate lIfe..

    Help.. :(
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    #2

    Mar 20, 2012, 02:14 PM
    Regardless, I would advise to stay away from the teacher, could get him in a lot of trouble.
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    #3

    Mar 20, 2012, 02:17 PM
    Before giving any advice, may I ask some background questions?

    How old are you?
    Are you in high school or college? I am unfamiliar with what 'individual' and it would help me if you explained what that class is.
    How long have you been one of his students?

    Thank you.
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    Mar 20, 2012, 02:24 PM
    I'd say he might be sharing a bit too much about his personal life. There is a line between being friendly with a student and sharing too much personal information... too many details.
    Is he open this way with other students or just you? It may be his personality, but he does need to be careful that he doesn't cross that line.

    Many students will develop a crush on a teacher, but it is important to remember that that is all it is... or all it should be.

    I agree with mmresd... best to keep this strictly teacher/student. If he doesn't, you will have to. If he becomes too comfortable, and starts to treat you more as a friend, he may say more than he should and I'm sure you don't want him to get into any trouble.

    This could also effect your reputation as well if other people start to feel there is any sort of favoritism going on.
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    Mar 20, 2012, 09:05 PM
    Let this crush pass, because its normal, but gets real tacky and inappropriate if you act in any other way than instructor/student. Don't cross that line.
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    Mar 21, 2012, 03:46 AM
    Thanks guys, I do think that I should let this crush pass but obviously I can't do it immediately now.. :(
    @cat1864 well he is my tutor.. I have him twice a week and it's been already more than a month.. I'm 17 n' going to finish high skool in 2 months:)
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    Mar 21, 2012, 05:13 AM
    May I offer you congratulations on graduating in a couple of months?

    There are things you can do now to let the 'crush' go.

    Stop discussing personal matters with him. Keep discussions limited to your work.

    What you have is young teacher who doesn't know how to set boundary lines with his students. He is acting like he is still in high school. If he doesn't learn how to distance himself from the teens he is teaching, he may end up in some seriously hot water.

    You sound like you have your head on straight. Accept that he is off-limits for several reasons and go about your life. It will be easier if you start thinking of him in the same way you do the most 'professional' teacher in the school. When you start thinking of him as a 'friend' bring up thoughts of teachers who you are convinced have no lives outside of the school. Mentally put him in his proper place. It will help.

    Good luck.
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    Mar 21, 2012, 05:19 AM
    Also do be careful sadly not all "nice" teachers are are harmless as they may appear. At 17, he may have ideas that are not proper also, not for any long term, but till his next student next year.
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    Mar 21, 2012, 05:27 AM
    @Cat1864 thanks a lot hon :) <3
    I will try..

    @Fr_Chuck thanks ^^
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    #10

    May 23, 2012, 11:54 AM
    Crush on teacher- what to do?
    How to know if a man likes you but tries to hide it for some reasons?
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    #11

    May 23, 2012, 12:04 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by blindlove View Post
    How to know if a man likes you but tries to hide it for some reasons?
    WHat makes you think your teacher has a crush on you? Just because you might have one doesn't mean he does. He might just be being nice to you.

    Besides... if you are under age... it would be a terrible thing if he ruined his career over a student
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    #12

    May 23, 2012, 12:07 PM
    Oh gosh calm down he isn't my teacher how can I edit my question on mobile? And I am an adult already ="=
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    May 23, 2012, 12:19 PM
    Your title indicates that he's your teacher.

    Oh, and so does your previous question as noted here:

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...er-644834.html
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    May 23, 2012, 12:21 PM
    That's why I want to change it , I was just looking for my old post with that title!
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    May 23, 2012, 12:22 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by blindlove View Post
    Oh gosh calm down he isnt my teacher how can I edit my question on mobile? And I am an adult already ="=
    Quote Originally Posted by blindlove View Post
    What should I do? I thInk I am in love wIth my teacher because I keep thInkIng about hIm all the tIme. He Is just amazIng, nIce and young. We always chat In the begInnIng of the lesson (I have hIm for IndIvIdual).

    He told me he starts datIng a gIrl, hIs problems wIth her, or even about theIr date. Last tIme he asked me what am I goIng to do durIng the weekend..I answered that I am gonna have a sleep over at my frIend's house (her house) and then he randomly saId "hIs house?"

    It was so weIrd because he dIdn't even know do I have a boyfrIend or not. Once I told hIm that I had just broken up wIth my boyfrIend, he saId he guessed that boy must feel sad because lost a gIrlfrIend lIke me and then he started talkIng about hIs last relatIonshIps and that he doesn't lIke breakIng up blah blah..

    I wonder does he lIke me or he Is just too openness to tell everybody about hIs prIvate lIfe..?

    Help..:(

    Really... WAS he your teacher?
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    May 23, 2012, 12:26 PM
    I was looking for my account in Google because I forgot it :(
    And I let that crush pass, I'm talking about another person now.

    Don't know how it got to my title
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    #17

    May 23, 2012, 12:36 PM
    I'm a senior.
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    #18

    May 23, 2012, 12:40 PM
    I have a crush on my teacher..!
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    #19

    May 23, 2012, 12:41 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by blindlove View Post
    It's not 3days old
    It was long time ago.
    It was posted March 29, 2012, two months ago. You said you are 17.
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    #20

    May 23, 2012, 12:45 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by blindlove View Post
    So is it 3 days like you said????
    Did you graduate like you said you would do in two months? It's been two months now since your first post.

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