[Thegingerlouis]

Hello,
I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now and it's been one of the most amazing years of my life, I couldn't of asked for anything better. Me and my girlfriend get on and we constantly tell each other how much we love one another.

Recently we we're on and off for about 3 weeks and the reason we broke up is because I'm a big "gonna". I always say I'm going to do things but I never actually do them. This all started on pancake day. A week prior to pancake day we had the most perfect week ever. We relaxed, we had fun, we slept together, I cooked for her, everything was perfect. Then all of a sudden she broke up with me.

The reason she gave me as that she was bored and she wanted to try other things with other guys. We have been through a hell of a lot together and I have never felt as close to a person in my life as I do with her. I wouldn't change anything about her, when I look into her eyes I get this overwhelming warm feeling all throughout my body. We always went places I took her out for meals, we went to the cinema and everything.

But we got back together after this "break" and now she's limiting the amount I can see her because she says she doesn't want to get bored of me again, like was always used to be with each other, and I'm only allowed to see her 4 days a week and the other 3 days I'm not allowed to see her because she will be with her friends and she doesn't want to change the way she acts around me.

No-one knows we got back together and I don't think she wants anyone to know, but for some reason I feel as though she's embarrassed to still be with me. I really do love this girl and I will do anything for her. I'm trying everything I can to show her how much she means to me, like when she's round at my house I cook for her I run her a bath with candles I even go out in the morning and buy her coffee and breakfast. I just really need help on what to do, I've asked a few friends and they have said two things; one was to go with the flow, and the other was to leave her and find someone who doesn't limit the amount I'm allowed to see her, but I understand that she wants her own space and her own time, but I'm just worried she's bored of me and is waiting for the next guy to come along.

Please guys I'm begging you please help me!

[indya]

In some cases familiarity does breed contempt! And please don't be clingy. It seems she really got bored of you and is just bidding her time till she finds someone else.

Your best option is to just leave her and move on. She's going to end it anyway, so by leaving this relationship you'll at least get to end it on your own terms and with some dignity.

[talaniman]

In some cases familiarity does breed contempt! And please don't be clingy. It seems she really got bored of you and is just bidding her time till she finds someone else.

Your best option is to just leave her and move on. She's going to end it anyway, so by leaving this relationship you'll at least get to end it on your own terms and with some dignity.

Totally agree with you on this one!!

The reason she gave me as that she was bored and she wanted to try other things with other guys... But we got back together after this "break" and now she's limiting the amount I can see her because she says she doesn't want to get bored of me again, like was always used to be with each other, and I'm only allowed to see her 4 days a week and the other 3 days I'm not allowed to see her because she will be with her friends and she doesn't want to change the way she acts around me... No-one knows we got back together and I don't think she wants anyone to know, but for some reason I feel as though she's embarrassed to still be with me.

That not telling others of getting back together, and her wanting to explore are enough to lead you to believe you are just her amusement while she looks for a better boyfriend.

Tell her you have changed your mind and your feelings and wish her well, and disappear. A text is sufficient. That's about all you can handle since she clearly has power, and control over your brain, and heart.



That's not fair at all to me! Nor should it be fair to you either.

[confusedchild8]

First of all I think you sounds like a very sweet guy, but girls like to chase, make HER chase after you, don't give her all your attention, don't call her first, you tell her when she can see you, pretend you have something to do on a day when she wants to see you, question why she doesn't want people to know, and ignore her for days at a time. If this does not make her chase after you then I am sorry to say that she really is not into you anymore. I hope this helps and good luck