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    atenik Posts: 11, Reputation: 1
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    Mar 18, 2012, 01:09 PM
    Is my boyfriend testing me or playing mind games with me?
    My boyfriend and I have been together for four years, and just two days ago he asked my father's permission to marry me.
    My boyfriend has some depression/mental illness issues that I am aware of and I do not see myself spending my life with him.
    Today when my boyfriend and I left my apartment we started approaching my car, he quickly pointed out that the front grill on my car was vandelised, (he pays attention to everything), things I do not pay attention too. Anyway, he yelled at me about what happened to my car I stated I do not know, he then said to me "people who vandelise your car is trying to tell you something", so he kept on yelling at me about "what's going on and why does my car look like garbage now"? I got quiet and then I turned to him and said maybe you did it since you are all upset and questioning me about something I don't know. I asked him was he going to take care of fixing it for me? He didn't answer me, then he screamed at me again saying "you better stop playing with me, why would I mess with your car when I want to marry you?" I said I don't know who did it or why? I do recall him telling me when he was in he was a young adulthood he would vandelise people's cars when he was angry.
    I don't know what to think I am confused, mad, hurt, and don't know if I should trust him? I need some comments on this article...
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    Mar 18, 2012, 01:14 PM
    What's going on with marrying him? Did you say yes?

    If he can get that angry with his voice, hitting could easily be next. I would be very careful around him. And no, I would not marry him.
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    Mar 18, 2012, 04:04 PM
    Why are you with him? He screams at you in public, with odd comments as well, and you don't see yourself with him long term, so why stay together?

    Is he being treated for the depression and mental illness you believe he has? If not, why not?

    If he is thinking marriage, and you aren't, it would be best to let him know that now so that both of you can move on.
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    Mar 18, 2012, 04:48 PM
    You stated you do not see yourself spending you life with him, when did you decide that ? Why are you still dating him ?
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    Mar 19, 2012, 01:08 PM
    Harshness Warning

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ch-579721.html

    You are still with this nut of your other posts? Tell your father he is cracked, and to refuse his offer. Are you as crazy as he is?
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