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Wondergirl · Mar 15, 2012, 09:50 AM

Holland is small, like the town I grew up in. But you are close to lots of museums and historical stuff. This should be a pretty section of Texas too, not like the wilderness to the west. (I'm trying hard to find good reasons to be there.)

Do you attend school while you're in Texas?

Imissmygirl · Mar 15, 2012, 09:51 AM

I really have all of my friends on my side I have all of my friends parents on my side... I have a lawyer on my side but he doesn't study this kind of law... I can try and talk to my moms friends but I don't know how well it will work and yea you're reading that right it's small... to small...

Imissmygirl · Mar 15, 2012, 09:54 AM

Ok thank you and wondergirl that's not the town many people get it confused it's pop. Is 1,102 there's nothing around here and no if I have to stay I will start Monday which I don't want I have everything going for me over there I'm top of my class in baseball and one of the best kickers for football in the state

Wondergirl · Mar 15, 2012, 09:57 AM

I was looking at the zip code, not the population number -- sorry, so I changed my post about how big it is.

You are close to Killeen and Austin and even the ocean. Is there any chance you could go with your dad or another family and explore the area?

Imissmygirl · Mar 15, 2012, 09:59 AM

I've been up down left right and anywhere I could be in this state to try and make myself happy but my happyness is in New Mexico

Wondergirl · Mar 15, 2012, 10:02 AM

Do you text and call people in NM? With technology now, it should be easy to stay in touch. (Back in my day, all we could do was write letters for snail mail.)

When you drive around, what do you see in that area?

Imissmygirl · Mar 15, 2012, 10:06 AM

Yea I try when I can they're all busy doing stuff I see lost memories ever since I was 5 I've hated coming here I would scream and cry for hours because I didn't want to be here nothing is fun to me here

Wondergirl · Mar 15, 2012, 10:09 AM

Tell us what the situation is at your dad's house. He goes to work when? And is home when? And what do you do all day?

Is your mom near Albuquerque or Santa Fe? What's the size of the town and living situation? Is there stuff to do?

JudyKayTee · Mar 15, 2012, 10:16 AM

Okay, first - how long are you in Texas? I need to know that. Are you there for weeks or months? Something else?

Your girlfriend's mom is showing good, common sense - she obviously cares for you and doesn't want you to get in trouble. That's good.

The only people who can change the visitation/custody issue are your mother and father (unfortunately). If your mother has physical custody of you (where you live most of the time) she is the one who would have to ask the Court to give you more time with her and less time with your father. You - because of your age - have no legal standing to do anything.

The best you can hope for is to put some pressure on your parents to see your side of things. Running from person to person with your side of things can blow up in your face (of course) but some well-placed calls (or conversations) with people who care for you, know how desperately unhappy you are, will go a long way.

Grandparents? Aunts and uncles or someone who your mother (and perhaps your father) will listen to?

I see no other legal way... but I'm thinking.

If you have a friend who is an Attorney, agrees with you but doesn't practice family law that person might very well have some suggestions that will be helpful. I'm in NY, not Texas or NM, so my knowledge of the laws "there" is limited. I have researched, and that's what I've posted.

Anything sounding possible to you?

(As I said, I had a desperately unhappy stepchild, and I was able to talk to her mother and father and we were able to reach a compromise that made her happier.)

Imissmygirl · Mar 15, 2012, 10:17 AM

Well he divorced my mom when I was 1 or 2 then we didn't come and see him for a while then we as in me and my brother started coming here when I was five then it's kind of regular but for the last 5 years it's been miserable for me there's slot of verbal abuse from my dad and my brother... my dad goes to work at about 5 in the mornin and works till about midnight I rarely see him and when I do he drinks and my mom lives in Abq I go to del Norte I have a girlfriend I've spent every moment of the last 2 months with and love her to death... mymom is a teacher she is home regularly there is everything to do in albuquerque I love it there

Imissmygirl · Mar 15, 2012, 10:21 AM

All I want to do is just go home my dad said he's making me stay till school is over and apparently he's making sign up for the little high school here I don't want to do that I want to be home with my mom and brother I just want to go home

JudyKayTee · Mar 15, 2012, 10:22 AM

He can't make you do anything that isn't covered by the Court Order regarding custody and visitation. Do you know what it says?

Is there some reason you suddenly ended up in Texas? Why did your mother allow this?

Imissmygirl · Mar 15, 2012, 10:25 AM

I don't know I mean he was just like your coming here and living here and I was forced and I'm tryn to get home but he says no to everything I just want to get home

Imissmygirl · Mar 15, 2012, 10:32 AM

And I think my mom has sole custody

JudyKayTee · Mar 15, 2012, 11:13 AM

So your Dad has visitation. In fact, if right now he has physical custody of you that MIGHT be a violation of a Court Order. Any way you can find out 100%?

There must be a reason your mom has full custody. Was your father a problem in the past?

- I'm still looking for options for you.

Fr_Chuck · Mar 15, 2012, 11:47 AM

So when you call your mom on the phone and talk to her what does she say? If you were kid napped you walk or call the police and tell them your dad has taken you away from your mom who has custody. If your mom knows you are there, and has allowed him to take you, then you have to stay

Imissmygirl · Mar 15, 2012, 10:32 PM

It's not considered running away if I'm just walking home right?? because today my dad was like just leave then if your going to walk leave go pack your stuff and start walking...

Wondergirl · Mar 16, 2012, 06:58 AM

Yes, it would be considered running away.

What your dad said was a frustrated dare, but depending on court orders, you would be in big trouble.

Imissmygirl · Mar 16, 2012, 07:05 AM

I don't understand because its technically permission... the lady at the police station said leaving home without permission is running away snd that's pretty much permission right??

Wondergirl · Mar 16, 2012, 07:07 AM

No, it was not permission.

Depending on court orders, he doesn't have the right to say that. It was only frustration.