[bittersweet93]

I want some help with this.
All right so I was in a 3yr relshnship. He was my first, my first real boyfrind he was a drunk. He got me into drinking. It was a ****ty relashnship, he cheated, I cheated we lied all the time about being out at night , he would turn off his phne, always mke me cry but I was real young and he ever respected me , he even hit me once. The relashnship was very toxic and we were engaged!
He left to his home country, syd he would never come back bt I brke up with him before that. 2 yrs later he's HERE. I hve a boyfriend, almst 1yr togther. He's the BEST. No drinking no crzy nights nothing Nd we are engaged NOW. I know, I'm just always getting engaged. Anyway my dad told me he saw my ex yestrdy and told me till today. He also told me he was DRUNK no surprise their. Anyway I just want to know if its normal what I feel?
I feel scared because I'm in a great relashnship... and he's well a PSYCHO. I'm scared I might see him and feel something... I'm scared of him seeing me with my current boyfriend. I'm also very curious, like how he's been? If he has a girlfriend now? Just stuff like that bt at the same tme I don't think its right for me to feel this way. I'm cunfused and I'm scared and FREAKED out. Bt I feel like if he wantd to find me he would just come to my house, which he hasn't bt I'm scred he will. I'm just scared, worried.
Can I get some feedback to if its normal and what I can do to feel bettr?

[mmresd]

Don't feel that one, be indifferent. Focus on your relationships, not on some nightmare from the past.

[Alty]

No, it's not normal to obsess about someone that treated you like crap. Who cares what he's doing or how he's doing? I wouldn't give him the time of day if he treated me the way you say he treated you. Heck, I wouldn't even give him a glass of water if he was dying of thirst.

Why do you care what he's doing? He was a jerk to you, and you're with someone that you supposedly love enough to marry. That is what being engaged is supposed to lead to. Marriage.

I don't understand why you would still be thinking about him, and I've been in toxic relationships. The only think I've ever wondered about the jerks that treated me worse than your ex treated you, was if karma had caught up to them. Other than that, the only thoughts I have about them are not thoughts I'll admit to anywhere, just in case something should happen to them. ;)

[bittersweet93]

Your right it just freaked me out but I'm feeling a bit better thnnk you both