[Jesssssica]

Boyfriend from Chicago he's a great musician I guess he's in several different projects. I used to like the party lifestyle but since we've had a kid he hasn't helped with ANYTHING. He just plays with my emotions. Like I would find pictures of him with other girls. Then he goes out "mixing" several days a week and has nothing to show for. He always asks me for money when he needs a haircut... Well what about when I need a haircut , who's there for me. Then when I do leave the house with my son for several he calls and texts me that he misses me and all his bull****. That isn't even true. And me going to events with him has not even really been an option, he has tainted everything. He made me delete my Facebook profile. He's mentally abusive if I talk to anyone he gets all hurt and ****. He's a BIG *****. And I'm tired of it. He's not a man in any way.

I guess I liked him when I was 19 because I was a girl. I had to force myself to be a woman and now I am. We just don't match anymore. He doesn't get it. I tell him over and over again. How much I can't stand being with him. He thinks that I'm in love with him because he makes me feel so insecure. That's not love. Love is not jealous. I talked about this to one of my friends who is also a counselor or some **** he told me, don't have sex without protection. This ****ing guy never wears protection he's an *******. I don't want to catch anything. He gave me chlamydia before. I know it was him because I have not had any sexual contact with anyone else but him. And now that I don't get out as often as I should.

I'm beginning to notice that if any other guy gives me attention, which I'm not going to lie, a lot of them do.. . Its hard for me not to respond to that now days. Like before I would be like **** off and not give a **** now its like I'm curling my hair between my fingers and like ooohhhh you like me (never saying it out loud, but I'm pretty sure I'm making a dumb face) he's made me socially awkward and feel really weird when I'm out like I shouldn't say anything or do anything...

What do you guys think? How can I get this ******* to **** off... Should I just completely cut ties even though we have a son together? I think I have had so much patience with him, I'm going to end up cheating for real so I can sabotage our relationship, and I don't want it to get to that... I've tried before (I only made out with a guy I was seeing from before, it was a bit planned not going to lie).. I don't want to be the *****. Cause to everyone else he seems like a cool guy he's so ****ing cool, whatever. To me his girlfriend he treats me like ****. I'm over it, how do I demolish our relationship?

[talaniman]

Pack up and leave and have a friend or two to help, or if its your place, tell him to leave and help him pack up his stuff.

[MS.CONFUSION]

WOW does this sounds just like my life. Almost. I am going through it too and all I know is if figure out how to get this dude out of your life let me know. I think you should just run and don't look back.

[mmresd]

You feel this you feel that... you think this you think that... STOP IT. DO SOMETHING about it, just leave, or just kick him out. He wants to have his fun and not be part of the family, then he doesn't deserve to have a warm bed to crawl into your arms nor be the father he should be trying to be.

@MS.CONFUSION... instead of running and not looking back, I think she should run, look back, and laugh... this guy is pathetic.

[Fr_Chuck]

He is what he was when you were sleeping with him, he has not changed and don't know why you expect him to. You stop trying to be his sex buddy ( I would not call this a girl friend) and if he wants to visit or see the child, he does that but not visiting with the mommy.