[srsh2012]

Intercaste marriages
Hi, I'm in relation with a guy for about 3 years.he stays in a chawlas we had to decided to run and get married for that he took a room in a chawl on rental basis . His parents and my parents to got convinced but my parents are not totally happy with him.as he is from a lower caste,they didn't find him handsome.also because he is short as of my height.he kept on listening to me as I would say.I'm going under the medication of thyroid.due to this problem I get irritated very quickly and as now when my parents tell bad things abut him like as he is not owning a flat or he is not heighted or not good looking I get very irritated and I go and tell him abut this.and he gets irritated with this also he tells me once we'll get married I'll defintely purchase a flat first on rent and then ours.he is earning around 25000. He is very hard working . Apart from this he also does extra work and earns more. He is the whole and sole of the family.he takes care of his whole family. He loves me a lot and I do love him.but as my parents keep on tellimg abut him and also because of the thyroid disorder I get irritated and think the same whereas I know that he is he is going to be successful person in his life.but I too think negative as my parents think my parents have accepted him but not whole heartedely, should I stop listening to my parents.because before I never use to think negative about him. My parents told me that they'll get me married to him in few months but for him he is shelling extra money for the rented room upper floor which he is not using which he took it for me. Now he is telling me to leave him as I keep on torchering him every day. And due to that he can't concenrate on his work.he also told me that I'llwait till you get a partner in you life as uour parents and you want. And once uour married then I 'll think of getting married. I really don't know what to do.

[kavita_mehta]

Hi... just going through your question, 1st thing looks doesn't matter in love, if you truly love.. but the main imp thing which your parents thinking is that.. " after marriage he ll definately change, as u r good looking than him, his ego ll b greater than ur love.. he ll feel inconvinience when somebody tell him tht u r shorter thn ur wife & she is more good thn u & blah blah blah..." these small things going to hurt both of u... if you are still agree to marry this person,your love is true.. but just sort out the things which can affect both of you in future.. & 1 thing I believe is hell with world... see my problem, I'm suffering from a prob.. related to love marriage only..

[Fr_Chuck]

So marry him, your parents may get over it, ( or they may not) if you worry too much about what your parents want, you will never marry him. Get married and prove they are wrong, stop fighting with them, that only proves he is making you into a daughter who disrespects.

Be respectful in talk, and show honor to parents, but if you want to marry him do it and stop telling him everything your parents say, you are hurting him for no reason.

If you don't want to marry him, then let him go so he is not wasting his time and money