[Spartannation]

I'm pretty sure my girlfriend for a year and a half went back to her ex-husband. I know I need to move on and concentrait on myself. But I would still like any advise and some shared personal experience from people. I'm 28, and she is 27. She has two kids. One is a little over 2 and the other is 8. I met her when she was separated already for 9 months. She got officially divorced 3 months later. I kept my distance and we started as just physical. I broke it off a couple times because I was unsure about it in the beginning . It was only for a day or so. She eventually said she wanted more. I took my time, but agreed. We kept growing closer and one night she told me she loved me. I was actually at that point too.

About a month later my friends convinced me that I shouldn't be with her. I was not sure so I ended it. I didn't want to hurt her in the long run. I was worried about she had her tubes tied and I have no kids. I went back home to Michigan for a over a week for a wedding. I came back and texted hi. I realized I really wanted the whole package deal (the kids and her) and I didn't need my own personal children. We got back together. I was sure I wanted her in my life. I wrote her poems, played with her younger kid a lot ( I loved it, miss the little guy), did chores, made dinner, held her, was there for her, etc. We agreed to take our time with the older kid. We were at the point where I was going to meet her.

I had keys to her apartment. Gave the keys back for her father to get something when she was skiing with the kids. She insisted she would do my laundry. We were really good. Her ex husband showed up drunk a lot, yelled at her, laughted at her when I ended it in the beginning. Broke into her car, would not come get the kids for preplanned events because she did not want to argue with him. They got divorced because he cheated on her. She ended it. He had a girlfriend after the divorce. Anyway recently he tried to get more custody of the kids. That really tore her up. I think it was a game. Her young boy has rsv and health problems. She was always home at her apartment so she could give him the treatments for awhile. She either lost her job or quit. She never told me. She also let me use her dish network for my phone and I just noticed it was behind a couple months. We got into a stupid fight but patched it up. A week later I wrote her a poem and got flowers for her for valentines day. She loved it. We talked fine for a couple weeks then she disappeared for 3 days. Said she went to Arizona to one of her girlfriends to get away. She said she kept her phone off. It was until she was in airport.

We talked, she said she loved me and missed me. I got her a gift for her birthday she loved it. We talked. Were fine still. Talked to her the next day. We were really good for 3 days. She was having a movie marathon with her mom. We joked and talked back and forth about the movies etc. She said she loved me. That was late Friday night. Since then she has not responded to my messages. About two a day. My grandpa passed away and someone hit my car at church on Sunday. So I'm super emotional. I've asked her if she was OK. If she wanted me to stop talking to her. I left her alone almost two days. I found out where her ex-husband and her used to live. I remember her saying she lived there before she moved into her apartment. I think she said he moved out and we're trying to sell the place. Idk.

I drove by during the day in my work truck. I saw her car in the garage with the door open. I drove back at night and there was a big red truck out front and the garage door was shut. I called a couple times later and sent a message asking if she's back with her ex, etc. That's why I broke the silence. Nothing. My number isn't blocked or anything. It's now Thursday. She has complete disappeared from
Her apartment complex. I went to see if she took my birthday gift with her and she did. I left it in an old mail box. I Checked her storage locker and it was unlocked. Full of her stuff, clothes,  stroller, etc. Maybe she got hurt but I doubt that. Maybe I'm jumping to conclusions. Idk. I'm going to say I'm going to leave her completely alone and I love her and always will. I wish her the best. I'll say check box # whatever and put this long letter I've been working on to get rid of stress. Idk.

[talaniman]

Burn the letter and conclude that whatever she is doing, she doesn't want you to know, or be involved in. She sure is not keeping you in the loop either, so plan for the worst, and know you tried your best.

Drop her like a hot potato.