[Nainachakra]

I'm 21 and I was in a relationship with this guy for 3 years.. Life was perfect.. We were really good together.. We used to be together practically all the time.. For me it was it was love at first sight.. Because we're in year, same class we got talking and really clicked.. I mean he was the first guy I was so comfortable with.. And then he asked me out and it seemed so natural to date him..

Well we do have a difference in personalities.. I mean I'm kind of outspoken and he is a little shy.. I'm get really excited about things and then get angry and depressed also really fast.. He's just always calm.. Hardly any ups n downs in emotions..

But well those 3 years were the best years of my life.. But 2 weeks back he broke up with me saying that he just doesn't feel the same anymore.. He says he still cares got me.. But he doesn't love me.. I mean is that even possible? How can you just suddenly fall out of love for somebody who you have been with for 3 years? He insists that there is nobody else.. That he just wants to be alone for sometime and figure himself out..

But me.. I'm shattered.. I mean I don't know what yo do with my time anymore.. I just keep crying all the time.. I am still talking to him just as friends because I don't know what I'll do if he completely goes out of my life.. But I don't know what to do.. We're in he same college so I have to see him everyday.. I'm so confused and completely heart broken.. Please help..

[talaniman]

Sorry but break ups happen all the time, and it sucks. People just change sometimes even when others have not. You have to accept it, and get a life without him for your own sake. Its hard, and that sucks too.

You can never heal while you still hold him in your life though, and that too will suck later.

[imkelsybabey]

Don't avoid the obvious, and let him control your emotions. Go out to events and have fun without him. Invite some girl friends over and have a movie night or something. Show him you can have fun without him. Three years is a long time, and if he truly loved you in the beginning he definitely couldn't suddenly stop. When you see him, smile and continue on your way. The first step in moving on is letting go, and giving new things a chance. :)

[confusedchild8]

I have been where you are and I know it is not easy. However you need to move on, you need to tell yourself that you are better off without him and that you can make it through this, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, I know when this happened to me I had lost most of my girlfriends so there was barely anyone left to talk to, but try rebuilding friendships and do things you wouldn't normally do, go out, have fun, make yourself feel good, start living your life as if he was never in it, and every time you start to think about him change your thought, think about anything but him, and soon enough you will realize that you are over him.