[TTHB8]

I just got married at 52, 2nd marriage. I have 3 daughters who live in my home knowing I want them out. Not only do they curse me, they have boyfriend that live here too. I have tried everything to explain this is not a free place to live. They just do what ever they want. Bring home dogs grandchild, boyfriends etc. what can I do? I just want to die or move out of the country. This is ruining my marriage life and they just curse me ignore what we say, come and go when they want to. They never ask me to come and stay or anything. I am at my wits end. Please help me I have lost control respect and its ruining my life marriage and I am just dying inside. Help me to get them out

[TTHB8]

Please help, I have 3 daughters 1 is almost 18, other daughters are 25, 22 and my 22 daughter just goy out of the army. She came home with a dog I told her she could not have and a boyfriend. My oldest daughter has a place of her own we paid for for 3 months that still comes over every night with her husband and child. They pay nothing in rent or help in any way. Its just like an open house for anyone. I have told them all to leave they just call me a stupid F-ing B. My husband and I are planning on moving out of the country when my youngist daughter gets out of high school. I am dying a slow death at 52. My husband is 61 and works 60 hours a week. We are so tired of being taken advantage of. Please give me some advice on how to get them out and still love me. I was a single parent for 20 years now I want to be selfish and have a life of our choice while we have any time left. I would rather be dead than live this disfunctionle life I am living now.

[JudyKayTee]

Where? In the US you would need to evict them.

Then don't let them back in.

If you would rather be dead than live in this situation you need to speak to a professional counsellor. I don't believe that's a normal reaction to the situation when you can get them out.

[joypulv]

Your key words were 'and still love me.' If they don't love you away from your home and they are calling you horrible names in your home, the love is squashed under a mound of lack of respect. You probably are being wishy washy out of fear of losing them. Let them disappear, it won't be forever, when they realize what they were like. Find out the eviction laws where you live for 'tenant' or 'lodger' and proceed formally and stop letting them walk all over you. Call the police if they threaten and get a restraining order.

[joypulv]

Oh, and call a real estate agent and have a for sale sign in your lawn, assuming you own your home. It probably won't sell until you are ready to leave anyway.