[MelAnie09]

I have this guy that I'm completely in love with. We dated for almost three years but it wasn't all easy but what relationship was. We started having problems toward the end, and at the time I was living with him and three of his buddies and going to school. So I started confiding in my boyfriends best friend and he starting making me believe all these things that were supposedly better rather than being with my boyfriend. And needless to say we had sex. Well my boyfriend finds out and we break up.

It's been about 8 months since we broke up and I've tried to date someone else but can't because I love him so much. Every time I've seen him we both give each other those looks. We had a conversation two months ago and he said it was ****ed up that I ****ed his best friend. Which was and that he still loved me but couldn't be with me right now because he felt like I still hadn't learned my lesson and I was like whatever. We ended up getting drunk n having sex n then he asked me if I could sleep on the other bed. I was pissed but I felt like I had to.

And I just recently seen him for his b-day, I talked my friend into giving him a threesome. And half way through I realize that's not what I wanted at all. I didn't want to share him at the time we were all drunk and it was in the moment, he finally directed all his attention toward me and she just went to bed. Then he wanted me to sleep by him. Even though they didn't do anything but basically make out it still made me feel really weird the whole day. She said like she kind of crossed the line with me because that was somebody I totally cared about.

The more I started thinking that the more it started to bother me. I want to work it out with him but were on the same agreement that now is not the time. We're going to finish college and direct all our attention to that and then talk about us or when the time comes. But I just don't even know what to do about the while situation. He basically want to be f*** buddies and not have a relationship with me. Ugh, I don't know what to do.

[talaniman]

Leave the whole situation is what you need to do, and stop using being drunk as an excuse to be used for sex.

[mmresd]

If you can't control your actions when you drink, then stop drinking.

It seems like neither of you know what you guys want. First figure out what you want, either to be messing around or to be in a relationship. He doesn't seem to have the same level of commitment as you, and he won't be willing to offer you what you are wanting. Think this very clearly before making any decisions. Control yourself. He wants to have fun, but yet have fun with you, that is where the f**k buddy relationship that he wants is coming from.

[indya]

Stop drinking. Stop interacting with this guy. And please stop getting used us a sex toy. Get a grip on yourself.