[mitchells76]

Okay, I realize that there is a question that is almost identical to mine. My boyfriend is 30 and I am 22, ever since we first started dating, he has told me that he doesn't like strip clubs. We live in the twin cities, and he is currently working in a different state closing a store for the company he works for. Some of his friends are supposed to be going out to see him... He has the nerve to "tell" me that he wants to go to a strip club. Background: I haven't been jealous in past relationships, but as soon as he told me that I was dead silent because I was about to fly off the handle. Holy buckets, why would you spend money to see other women when you have me? Please don't give me any crap about how it is a "male bonding" thing. That's ridiculous, then they should go out and get wasted and bond that way. He invited me, but to tell you the truth, if I went there, and a stripper started getting close to him or looked at him, I would go ape ****. I know that sounds so crazy, I KNOW IT. But just thinking about it makes my blood boil. I'm in love with him, I satisfy him, I don't know why he needs this. I need specific questions to ask him, I need specific examples of what to say to him that will hopefully change his mind. Friday is coming up soon, and I'm dreading it!

[talaniman]

Relax, because he did tell you about it, and to go crazy would only make the idea of a strip club even more tantalizing. Its only about drinks and a show, and a sense of freedom for a night, and knowing my own experiences, he probably can't afford but a few drinks at some inflated prices, and its not about you at all any way, so if you don't take it as a personal thing, then it won't be.

You could always get the understanding that what fair for him, and his buddies, is just as fair for you and yours. But what most females never figure out in their jealousy and insecurities is that guys don't want to appear wimpy with the other guys, so no way can he say NO, and be subjected to the cruelest of male behavior. Give him a break, and treat him like the trusted man of your life that's mature enough to stay within boundaries of good behavior, and he will be forever grateful for that mature trust, and the confident secure way YOU dealt with it.

Remember he chose to ask and not hide it and LIE! That has to count for something.