[loxic]

I have a two year that I take care of alone. The father of my child has abused me in front of our child and has made threats he will kill me. I canceled child support and any help from him because I don't want to tempt him into trying to get visitation,so he can hurt my child. He has said he will hurt him as soon as he can. He ruins my life every chance he gets. Is there anyway I can get full custody and move without him getting visitation? I'm truly scared of what he will do not so much to me,but my child out of spite.

[ScottGem]

First, support and visitation are separate issues and treated separately. If you can prove that he is a danger to you and your child then you can keep visitation to supervised or none.

But you will need to prove it to a court.

[Fr_Chuck]

You are totally confused. He has full rights to ask for visitation no matter what you are doing.
And no you can not take away his rights.

You can prove your case, take him to court to give him only supervised visits, proving he is a danger to the kids.

You asking for child support has nothing to do with his rights.

[loxic]

I understand they are two different issues. Hard to explain I dropped the child support case against him because he threaten to kill my child,so he would not have to pay child support. I take care of my child and do not need his additional support. Child support was put into order because I asked for Tanf until I got a stable job which did not take long. They did a review and asked if I wanted to continue with going after him with.support I said no. He has never had to pay support and does not help me at all. I just want to protect my child because he will hurt him. I don't know the steps on doing so. He does not know where I live or work,but if I start trying to get things in order they will release my information.. please correct me if I'm wrong. I'm not just trying to take his rights away because of a childish reason,I just don't want to lose my child due to a judge thinking I'm one of those mothers who get mad and try to do things out of spite. He is a felon and loves to hurt people. I know I should have thought of all this before I slept with him,but now its done and I'm begging for help. If I.could explain more I would love to,but its hard to get all of the details on here from my cell phone.

[ScottGem]

Again, this is a matter of proof. If you can prove he is a danger to the child, then you can keep your whereabouts secret and eliminate visitation. Support can be collected through an agency.

You asked; "Is there anyway I can get full custody and move without him getting visitation?" We answered that. You have to go to Family Court and prove he is a danger to you and your child.

But the way it is now, he can go to the police or FBI and charge you with parental kidnapping for hiding his child from him. I'm not saying he will do that. I suspect he is trying to intimidate you into not going after him for support and as long as that doesn't happen he's happy.

If there are no court orders for custody or visitation, then you are free to move. But again, if you hide his child from him, he can go after you for kidnapping.

My advice is to get a good attorney and do this right. Get a court to award you full legal and physical custody. To deny him visitation, to get him to help support your child (something your child is entitled to) and to have a restraining order against him to prevent him from finding you or contacting you. Without court orders to that effect, you will be always looking over your shoulder, wondering if and when he's coming after you and his child.

[loxic]

Ok, thank-you the only proof as far as court is when I called the cops on him for abusing me they took it to juvenile court I guess because it was in front if my child. I.just want to make sure if I go to court they will protect us. Thank you all for answering my question.