What should I think ?

Lindsay2012 · Feb 16, 2012, 01:27 PM

My and my boyfriend have been together for close to a year . Normally we will start sex with a condom then take it off but he won't come inside me. I'm on the depo shot and don't have a period chances of getting pregnant are very rare what should I do or think ? Help please

LearningAsIGo · Feb 16, 2012, 01:51 PM

There is still a chance of getting pregnant.

What should you do or think? You should use a condom the whole time (why bother if he takes it off?) and be thankful that you have a boyfriend of less than a year who is being at least a LITTLE BIT safe by SLIGHTLY minimizing the chance of impregnating you.

P.S. I know someone who got pregnant twice while using Depo. The second time, she was 5 months along before she knew because the one time she ovulated, she conceived and had no idea because her period never came.

SentientAndroid · Feb 16, 2012, 02:15 PM

Hey Lindsay. My ex was on the Depo Provera shot for about 3 years. If you don't mind me asking, how long have you been on it, and how much research have you done on it? From my personal experience and a few other threads on this site... you may want to reconsider. With that being said, don't freak out about him not wanting to release inside you. I had only released inside of my ex twice in our 3 years on it. It just feels... weird to me, everything was just a bit TOO sensitive with my experience.

Another reason I didn't care to release inside of her was because it was highly erotic for me to just pull out and release on her back, leg, butt, breast... ankle, just everywhere. A third reason, at least for me, was because even though the Depo shot is supposed to be highly effective at preventing pregnancies, I just wanted to be extra safe and not have any of my sperm anywhere inside of her vagina. I hope this helps. At the end of the day simply ask him why he prefers to not release inside you, communication is key.

Lindsay2012 · Feb 16, 2012, 04:29 PM

I've been on depo for 7 -8 months . I've done a lot if research on depo and there a very slim chance of it . He's gotten off in another girl before and it didn't seem to bother him but with me he's extremely careful and I'm kind of curious to why? I've never had a guy ejaculate inside of me an honestly I just want to know what it feels like .

mmresd · Feb 16, 2012, 04:49 PM

A slim chance still means that you have a chance, just a slim one. Why is it that you want him to come inside so bad? He is just playing it safe, I am sure that neither of you are wanting to have a kid at this time, you should be thanking him instead of critizising him.

Lindsay2012 · Feb 16, 2012, 04:59 PM

No we do t want kids . Like I said none of my other partners have got off inside me and I'm curious what it feels like . A lot of people I know like the feeling of it . And I do appreciate that he's playing it safe but I personally think that theirs the same chance of getting pregnant from I'm pulling out and coming on me as there is if he would just do it Inside me

I also tried to see if he would get off inside me and it didn't work . I was on top and he keep telling me to let him on top cause he's going to come and I didn't let him and he just went along with it the right before he got off he pulled me off .

SentientAndroid · Feb 17, 2012, 06:31 AM

Wow, you're tenacious! Have you at least asked him why he prefers not to? My ex actually begged me a handful of times to come inside her and even though I wanted to, in the back of my mind I was just like f*** no. If he's anything like me he's just deathly afraid of getting you pregnant. But then again you said that he's done it with other girls, so I don't know. Just ask him already.

Lindsay2012 · Feb 17, 2012, 12:49 PM

I have asked him in a way . An he is scared of getting me pregnant . He only didn't in the other girl because when he pulls out she pulled him back inside her and would let me pull out .

mmresd · Feb 17, 2012, 01:49 PM

You may want kids, but do you both want kids RIGHT NOW?

Lindsay2012 · Feb 17, 2012, 01:57 PM

Neither of us want kids . Is it really as big of a deal for him to get off inside me as everyone's making it seem ? I'm not asking him to do it all the time just once.

Lindsay2012 · Feb 17, 2012, 02:04 PM

Neither of us want kids. I personally don't see the big deal in him conning in me . Why does everyone seem so terrified about it ? Haven't you been curious to what something was like? Or wanted to try something new that's all I'm trying to do

SentientAndroid · Feb 17, 2012, 03:19 PM

I understand completely, you just want to try it at least once just to see what it's like. Everyone's so "terrified" about it because there's a very real chance, although incredibly slim, that you could get pregnant. If you can explain to him and present him with some very real facts about the effectiveness of the Depo shot at preventing pregnancies and convince him that you just want to try it ONCE, go for it. Just be prepared that there is a chance, even if it's a 0.01 percent chance, that you two could be proud parents 8-9 months later, just sayin'.

Lindsay2012 · Feb 17, 2012, 03:40 PM

I understand the consequences . I think he's worried about it because his sister had a baby while one depo , but I see it as I can't get pregnant . If I don't have a period anymore how can I get pregnant

LearningAsIGo · Feb 20, 2012, 12:25 PM

Originally Posted by Lindsay2012

I understand the consequences . I think he's worried about it because his sister had a baby while one depo , but I see it as I can't get pregnant . If I don't have a period anymore how can I get pregnant

Even without a period, you can become pregnant. As I stated, I know someone who ovulated once but her period never came because she got pregnant that one time. It can happen.
As for wanting to try something new, its not an "obvious" sensation. You may not even be able to feel it. Its not as interesting to experience as you may think. If he doesn't want to, it's a mute point in your relationship. I'm sure it'll happen for you in time

Lindsay2012 · Feb 20, 2012, 02:14 PM

Problem solved . I asked him about it and he said it does scare him but hea willing to do it at least once .

mmresd · Feb 20, 2012, 03:17 PM

I don't really see what problem was fixed... in fact, now that he will inside, there is a potential problem if you were to get pregnant when both of your are not quite ready to have kids.

talaniman · Feb 20, 2012, 06:59 PM

Just because you believe you can't get pregnant on depo, doesn't make it a fact and I hope your pleasure, and curiosity don't back fire. It only takes once. I think you appreciate what you have until the time is right. What's the hurry?

Alty · Feb 20, 2012, 07:24 PM

Just to make sure you're aware. Even if he doesn't ejaculate inside you there's plenty of sperm in pre-ejaculate to get you pregnant.

So, since he's penetrating without a condom, even if only for a while, there is still sperm entering you.

Also, there's no form of birth control that's 100% effective. Every time you have sex pregnancy is possible. We have a few people on this site right now that got pregnant on the depo shot.

But the choice is yours. Even if he does wear a condom, and you're on the depo shot, there's still a possibility of pregnancy. If he doesn't wear a condom, there's a higher possibility. If he actually ejaculates in you, then there's an even higher possibility.

Cat1864 · Feb 20, 2012, 09:49 PM

Lindsay, how old are both of you? How serious is your relationship? Are you talking about the future or are you taking it one day at a time?

What I am seeing is someone who wants to chance a pregnancy (however slim the chance might be) on a sensation and who wants what she wants when she wants it. I am not sure if you have listened to your boyfriend or even care about his feelings. What he did with another female is not what he is currently doing with you (unless you want her in your bed along with him, I would suggest leaving her out any discussions on your sex life.)

Why not wait to tempt Nature until you are married or at least engaged? Then if you gamble and Nature wins, you will have a firmer foundation for making life altering decisions.

SentientAndroid · Feb 21, 2012, 07:38 AM

Hey Alty, is there REALLY sperm in pre-ejaculate? I don't want to get swarmed here (like I was with my very first question), but I've read a few studies here and there on the web that said yes and a few that said no. My ex was on the Depo shot for 3 years and I just always pulled on time, every time and even a year after she was off the shot. I'm just curious if it's a hard and true fact set in stone because I don't think it is.

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