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    Feb 11, 2012, 03:59 AM
    I just gave birth DECEMBER 17, 2012 and the father abandoned us
    I just gave birth DECEMBER 17, 2012 (caesarian section) and the father abandoned us?Please help me I can't find job because of my operation and I just know he had a job.And the birth certificate is still in the hospital he didn't sign it as a father of the child but the child is look like him?Please help, I need some serious advice
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    Feb 11, 2012, 05:02 AM
    God it sounds like your having a tough time, stay strong try stay with family , be determined and make sure u do your best for your baby
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    Feb 11, 2012, 05:58 AM
    Where do you live?
    Start in the phone book calling social services (blue pages in the US) about applying for welfare and public housing (which usually has a waiting period). Let your landlord know - who is on the lease? Find relatives for now, someone, or even a roommate or 2 who can pay rent. Answer button below.
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    Feb 11, 2012, 06:31 AM
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    ... I just know he had a job. ...
    Are you saying that's all you know about him?

    You don't know his name, address, phone number?

    Assuming that I am mis-interpreting what you wrote, I suggest that you immediately contact the child support agency in your jurisdiction and get them working on getting him to pay child support.
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    Feb 11, 2012, 06:42 AM
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    God it sounds like your having a tough time, stay strong try stay with family , be determined and make sure u do your best for your baby
    Thank you for wanting to offer support for our members. However, since you are new here, you may not fully understand how this site works. We are a Q&A site. Please come here and ask for help or advice with a problem. This is especially true in forums like the Law forums where answers need to deal with the law.

    We may offer moral support, along with the advice, but not by itself. Please remember this in the future before responding.
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    Feb 11, 2012, 06:47 AM
    Marlyn.

    The very first thing you need to do is call Social Services. You need immediate help to provide support for your child. Social Services will provide some assistance in finding the father and going after him for child support, but that will take time. It is also possible. That he may evade his support obligation by going underground. He won't be the first deadbeat parent.

    What did you do before you got pregnant? Were you working? Did you leave that job on pregnancy leave? They may be required under FMLA to hold the job for you.

    More details (ANY question on law needs to include your general locale as laws vary by area.) may help us help you more.
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    Feb 15, 2012, 11:43 PM
    I am From the Philippines, (Two hours ride from the City)Right now I am in the city to look for a job I graduated as a Hotel and restaurant Management!
    1,) I tried to call him I know the number but he refused to help I don't know why?
    2.) I know his name.
    3.) what happen between us is just an accident, you know only once and I get pregnant.
    4.) I resigned from my Job in Manila. Its far from here a day and night travel by ship!And I heard the restaurant closes already.
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    Feb 16, 2012, 04:08 AM
    Have you contacted Social Services?

    Of course he refused to help. You were a one night stand. He didn't expect and doesn't want a child from that. But he has a legal responsibility and you need to enforce that by filing for child support.
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    Feb 16, 2012, 06:29 PM
    I tried to seek help her to our DEPARTMENT OF SOCIAL WELFARE AND DEVELOPMENT.. they said they are not helping to those who have parents there main priority is the street children.
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    Feb 16, 2012, 06:31 PM
    How can I file for the child support?
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    Feb 16, 2012, 06:45 PM
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    How can i file for the child support?
    Contact your local office of the Department of Social Welfare and Development.

    Department of Social Welfare and Development
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    Feb 17, 2012, 04:10 AM
    You need to go your local family court and file a petition for support.

    I would also check with someone else at social services. If you are an adult, your parents shoudn't enter into it.

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