[wizzzah]

I love her with all my heart, and she has a past where she done stuff with her friends, and I've seen her make out with a couple of her friends. And after that I told her it made me upset, and she said that she won't be like that anymore.

The times I seen her make out with friends she was drunk, and all the other times, I assume she would be drunk. I kind of notice here, and there, I see her looking at other girls as well. But there's still part of me that keeps thinking about it that sends me in circles. Its very depressing because I love, and want to be with her, but its just driving me insane. Is it possible for someone to just turn those sort of feelings off?

I've never been with a girl before that sort of swung both ways. Its not fun, its just painful. Just some thoughts would help. Its not the past that pains me, it's the fact that she still could be like that, and just hide it because it upsets me, and it would be easier to just hide it. I never seen her do anything like that ever since I said it hurts, but if she does when I'm not around I would t know :(

[Homegirl 50]

If she is bi sexual she should not turn it off because it makes you uncomfortable.
If what she is bothers you, she is not the one for you.
If she has a habit of getting drunk and getting fresh and it bothers you, she is not the one for you.
What is it about her that attracts you.

[indya]

You confuse me a bit. When you say she's done stuff in past with her friends, do you mean female friends? And by past do you mean before you came into her life?

If she's looking at other girls, it doesn't necessarily mean she's bi.

Can you be more clear? And what makes you think that she's doing stuff that you don't like in your absence?

[talaniman]

No point in worrying about what she is doing behind your back buddy. If you don't trust her, you have no business being with her.

None of us can deny our true natures, but we can be loyal despite that nature, if we choose to.

So while its hard to get over the past, you should not let your feelings judge how you handle he,r or your situation, because you have a choice to talk it out, fret over what you don't know, or trust or NOT.

I think you decide how to proceed. If there is no more evidence of cheating, and its just you worrying about it, then its YOU, not her that has to decide what's best for you. If you cannot take her word for it, you need to leave.

[mmresd]

My first reaction was to say "ENJOY!".

But seeing as if this actually BOTHERS you, I will have to agree with the previous posters... no trust, no relationship. What she has done in the past is irrelevant, the only thing that matter is what she does with you.