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ccyc11 · Feb 5, 2012, 10:16 PM

Hey guy really need a quick word of advice about my relationship.

Right, I'm 22 years old and my girlfriend is 19, so we've been together for 3 years now, we got together when her mum had cancer and she passed away 2 years ago while we were still together, so I was the only person helping her through that even though her other family members seemed to be caring more about themselves then her, so me and my mum took her into our house for a couple of month and I took her to Barbados last year to get her mind off things.

So last summer we broke up because apparently she felt that she was to young to be in a serious relationship and she wanted freedom. That really pissed me off because I do give her freedom she goes out whenever she wants and does what she wants, so to me it seemed like she wanted to date other guys, so I just dumped her and left it at that, couple of weeks later she come back to me, so I took her back. Even though I found out that during that raw patch she was texting romantic messages to her ex and other guys.

Now couple of month down the line we're all good, and I do almost everything for her, and she always asks me for advice. We've been having these arguments in the last week about pretty much stupid things, but today she decided to text me and tell that she thinks we're both unhappy in this relationship and we're both in a different mindset, cause she wants to travel after she graduates and so do I. And oh yeah AGAIN she wants to be FREE. Then she says I love you and I think you would be a great dad, I don't want break up with you cause you said you would delete me from your life if I did.

Seems to me that she doesn't want to break up with me cause she likes the idea of having me around and if she does break up I will ignore her and get on with my life.I hate being messed about. Just feels really unappreciative after all I've done for her and all we've been through.

Any advice guys?
Sorry for the long speech

Trella · Feb 6, 2012, 04:10 PM

Seems like there's not much you can do actually you should
Probably just begin talking to her about it and if it doesn't work out
That's just how it is and you have to move on. :/

bootnelroy · Feb 7, 2012, 01:38 PM

She is not your soulmate... move on

talaniman · Feb 7, 2012, 07:14 PM

Thank her for the good times and Delete her from your life, and disappear. Geez guy what would you expect from a young teen girl who is seeing a big world to explore. Let her, you need a fresh start yourself. You don't need the drama, and confusion though. She wants you to give her permission, so she doesn't feel guilty, which is also typical youth.