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hev28soton · Feb 7, 2012, 02:54 AM

Ok so I met him through the agency I work for. He added me onto blackberry and ever since we have spoken everyday mostly all day. I am 28 he's 20 and he acts it always talking about other girls etc... So anyway recently we have started to get closer he has always made it obvious that he wants to sleep with me... flirts with me all the time... but he has started to want to see me a lot. Like I go swimming 4 times a week and he goes out of his way to come with me. He's in training for a fight he has so I don't know if its just for that or to see me we have deep conversations and also fun ones. He's been around my house a few times as I am helping him out with job applications and he will offer to take me home after a night out as he works as a doorman.

My problem is, is he going out of his way cause he generally likes me or just to sleep with me. He's never denied he wants to do that he's extremely touchy feelly with me always complimenting me saying I am smart gorgeous nice smelling soft etc... on Saturday we kissed 3 times when he picked me up from a club and the sexual attraction between us is immense but I just can't read if we are just friends he says we will sleep together once and then be friends and not flirt.

Do you think this is really what he wants? I know he's a bit of a lady's man he talks to a lot of girls but going by the conversations it never goes any further than talk and he's happy to have one regular partner. He said to me the other day as I said if we sleep together it will make our friendship awkward he was like why in my head it won't... I am just so confused :-(

I wish · Feb 7, 2012, 07:58 AM

Time will tell what he wants. Why not just focus on getting to know each other better and see where that leads?

Just like any other guy, you would only have sex with them when you are ready. So why is he any different? Don't do anything that you aren't ready for.

Maybe you're not ready for sex with him, but it does sound like you're ready to get to know him better!

rania1 · Feb 7, 2012, 02:49 PM

I think he just want sex !
Sorry for that but I think he don't care about you he just want sex !
Talk to him ! And do not have sex until you see what he really want !

NicoleWillow · Feb 11, 2012, 03:45 PM

Well let me first start by saying that I'm a 19 year old female with a brother who is 20. Guys are naturally more behind when it comes to maturity and commitment. With you being 28 and from reading your post, I'm sure that your looking for someone whose ready to date and commit to being in a relationship. From the way things sound, he seems to want to be friends with benefits as opposed to seriously dating. If that's OK with you then it will work out great but if you want this to be more than just a sexual relationship I would suggest not getting physically involved and then expecting him to be ready to commit because that could ruin the friendship and any possibility for a deeper relationship.

Fr_Chuck · Feb 11, 2012, 04:23 PM

He is wanting a sex partner, he has not committed to you, not even close, So who many actual dates have you went on ? And in a number of months after you both no longer date others, perhaps sex ?

Of course if you are into just fun sex with no ties, ( I think the call it friends with benefits) you are a adult and can do what you like

talaniman · Feb 11, 2012, 05:26 PM

You are right, sex will complicate your already confused feelings, and he may be fun, but I don't think he is in it for a relationship, commitment, or long term.

They way to see if a guy is interested, is to see how long the interest last with no hope of quick hot sex. So date a while, have fun, and be in no hurry to confuse yourself even more. After al, he is just 20.