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Lightskincutie · Feb 5, 2012, 08:57 AM

I've been dating my ex boyfriend for over a year. I was very much in love with him. I broke up with him because I never met any of his friends and family an he never spent enough time with me. I only saw him once a week. I wanted to spend New Years Eve together, but he wanted to go out with his friends. I was piss. It was our first New Year together, so I broke up with him to teach him a lesson.

2 days later he had a new girlfriend that crushed me. He claim he met her the day we broke up they work together but I knew that was bull so I hit her up on Facebook recently to ask her how long they have been together an she said since Dec. 23rd, but it started as friends. I don't believe that because he was planning on cheating. You don't get another girl number when your in a relationship.

Since then he has said some real hurtful things like I'm bitter, and I need to get over him, and he wish he cheated on me, and that if it hurt me so bad, I should hate him, but I don't. But I have given up on trying to get him back, but its hard because I think about him everyday, and I was nothing but good to him, and it kills me to see that he is happy, and he treats her better than he ever treat me. I don't know how I will ever get over him.

talaniman · Feb 5, 2012, 10:07 AM

I think once you accept that your love was a lot deeper than his, and stop all contact whatsoever with this fellow, you will just need more time to get beyond this. A year of his BS will not be overcome in a month or two. Maybe 6 months. You need more healing time as I think you are accepting of the end of this, but are still working on dealing with the emotional fall out that break ups bring to us. That's why they suck. From happy to sad is quite an adjustment, and takes time to overcome.

It does get better.

Lightskincutie · Feb 5, 2012, 10:48 AM

Thank you I will stop all contact wit him because I need to get over him I know I loved him more than he loved me an I'm coming to terms with that

anndm · Feb 5, 2012, 07:30 PM

I understand that you love your ex but it's time to face reality that he has already moved on, so you should do the same. It's easy to say it, I know, but the more you think about him makes it hard for you. Cut off any connection to him, change number, delete him on Facebook and try keep yourself busy so you wouldn't think him that often. It's really hard to do it but as long as you're determined to forget about him, you will surpass that eventually. It's not fair that you still can't get over him and he has already. You should love yourself more and show him that you're better off without him. Be strong. Goodluck! :)

freedom_78 · Mar 5, 2012, 02:23 PM

My story is very similar. I dated a guy for a year and a half (a very rocky, unhealthy relationship). I felt therE was something wrong, and as you did, I dumped him in hopes that he would change and come back. As it turns out, a girl he worked with, stared living with him 3 days after I 'dumped' him. I thought I was going to DIE. I couldn't eat, sleep, or function. I felt like I was a zombie (much like I did when I was with him because he treated me horribly, but at that time, I wanted to be with him no matter what). I didn't know how I was going to get through it. But guess what? I did. It took time. That is all. Just time. Good friends, and a lot of time. That was four months ago, and now I am soooooo happy! I feel free and I have my life back. I feel like myself again and I have not felt like this in over two years. It sucked going through that pain, but now, looking back on it, I am grateful for it. I learned a lot. I will never settle, I will read the warning signs and not ignore them. And first and for most, I will never be with a person that does not respect me. You WILL get through this, that I promise you. There is no recipe to get over heart break and no real 'steps' you can take. But you can and you will. There are many more details to my story (and its not a good one) but you will get back on your feet. I promise you that!!

freedom_78 · Mar 5, 2012, 02:27 PM

Also what helped is NO CONTACT. I accepted the fact that he had moved on the day I found out about it. I did not contact him. Staying in contact keeps them in your life. You will not be able to move forward, if you are still living in the past.