[Camilliiie34]

Me and my boyfriend (well ex) were together for about two years.. everything was going fine, we never fought, we wanted to get engaged an everything.. but then, I messed things up..

We never been that type of couple with trust issues. He never had any reason to look through my phone, I had nothing to hide..
But then, I took advantage of it and started texting these guys.. two were my friends from class, and this other guy was a random *** dude I never talked to.. well it lead them flirting with me and I didn't stop it.. but I did stop texting them after it got too out of hand..

Well, the day that I starter texting these dudes was the day he looked at my phone and saw all the messages.. he accused me of cheating and broke up with me. I would never do such a thing, I love this dude too damn much to do such a thing.. he's the one I want to marry.. I'm stupid for texting those guys but I swear that's all it ever was..

So within the first month, he still came around.. (we live on the same street!) he would yell at me and then he would calm down.. it went on like that for like a month.. The second month, I started to tell him he needs to let me know what he wants.. because one day he texts me/calling me, and then the next.. he's like super pissed all over again..

I had always asked him "what do you want, for this to be completely done or what?" and he always tells me "if he wanted it to be done, he wouldn't still be talking to me.." (which is true). He told me he can see us together in the future, and that he still wants to be with me forever, but he can't be with me right now.. He says he needs time to get over this, or at least be on a level to where he not so pissed about it.. It's been exactly two months and we're still trying to work thing out. I try to give him his space, but it's so hard.. the most we haven't talked was like a week.. He tells me he'll come back to me when he's ready... he declared this as a break, and not a break up.. So I'm trying my hardest to not talk to him at all..

My questions are... do I wait for him? Or do I move on? I absolutely want to work things out with him.. and I'm willing to wait for him, but I don't think that's a smart idea.. because what if he doesn't come back? I don't want to move on because I literally can't.. my heart is with him.. I can't even look at other guys, I hate them! I just want him.. I'm willing to do everything to make things work.. I already deleted my Facebook, and hell I'll change my number.. I don't text anybody.. Him telling me he loves me and wants to be with me makes me want to wait.. but I don't know for how long he needs..

What do I do? :(

[mmresd]

You should probably talk to him about what he is wanting to do and if he is going to be able to give you another change. TALK to him, do NOT argue. You have made your bed, now you are having to sleep on it. Is going to take some time, IF he is even willing, to trust you again. Next time, think about what you are doing, and think about how other people will perceive things.

[talaniman]

You tell this insecure fool that you are tired of waiting for him to get over himself and to leave you alone, or act like he has some sense. Any one that can jump to conclusions, not listen to facts, and keep you hanging for 2 months is not in it to win it, and maybe he is stringing you along until something better comes along.

I would be really pissed at this fellow, and would not play his ignorant little game, or let him call the shots for this break/break up. Come on 2 months, and all you did was texts people? If you didn't suffer from guilt you would have said GOOD RIDDANCE to the A-hole and been long down the road to happiness.

It's a bad sign when someone stays mad for 2 freakin' months, and won't at least talk it out, forgive, and move on. Fact is, he seems to enjoy having the upperhand and the control that comes with it. So tell him you have decided to suffer at his whims no more and you have decided to break up, and move on. Then do it. Sure it will hurt, but REALLY, its hurting now, with no end in sight.

Stand up for yourself, or fall for BULL CRAP!