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    Jan 30, 2012, 10:42 AM
    How to figure out if someone is just messing with your heart or really into it?
    I'm a lesbian and I just came out of the closet not too long ago and I have been talking to this woman we first just started talking and hanging out and I had my first kiss with her and you know how they say fire works when you kiss this was it. Well we've been hanging out and she comes to my house to sleep and me to hers we kiss, cuddle, and hold hands and all the stuff you do with a partner but were not dating she had a bad break up a couple of months ago and we've been getting serious but then she tells me she don't want me to get too attached and she don't want to get serious with me or anyone else but I can't help feel that there is something going on between us than just a friendship. I've fallen and she hasn't. I just wish she would feel the same.. Help me?
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    Jan 30, 2012, 12:34 PM
    You really can't, you do of course start slow and look for signs.

    You go to each others home and make out. What about dating, going out to the park for a walk, going to movies, or out to eat.

    Gay, straight, bi, does not matter, it all works the same way. If they just want to go home and make out or have sex, they are just wanting the physcial needs met. If you want a real loving relationship, 1 take it slow dating, that does not have sex and making out involved. 2.Are you doing things in public, are they introducing you to family and friends.
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    Jan 30, 2012, 02:34 PM
    We can be supportive, but that's about it. Welcome to the world of all relationships, gay or straight or in between. You don't say how many times you have been in love, so have you? Even puppy love? Remember how it seemed like you would never survive?

    All you can do is let her know your feelings without being needy and clingy. If you can't help yourself and start getting jealous and suspicious and demanding, you have to go cold turkey.

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