[LhOaVtEe]

Hello, this guy and me just recently admitted to each other (12/17/11) that we liked each other, and all night and the next 2-3 days we texted a lot, and with good conversations. Then on (12/20/11) we had our first kiss and then ever since that he's been sort of distant. Then the following Friday (12/23/11) he was acting weird and didn't say much to me, and said he might come back to see me later on that night but it never happened. He gave a Christmas gift that night, but it wasn't even wrapped. I thought it was nice but I also joked around with him about a week before what he was going to get me, and I told him many times not to get me anything, so I felt stupid about it.

When he left on Friday night, needless to say he was drunk along with his friend, he did give me a hug. He always gives me a hug, even before all this, I could tell that he has liked me for awhile the way that he looked at me, and he could tell that I liked him too. I've texted him a couple of times and he doesn't respond, I told him that I feel that he's being very distant and he told me that he's just tired. I completely understand that too, and I didn't have a problem with it. The really bad news about all this is that he has a girlfriend that it was cheating on with me, and now I think that he doesn't want anything to do with me anymore because of it. I still really like him, even though I feel like I was being used, we also haven't for about 5 days.

I am also under 18, and he is over 18, so I think that he's scared that he's going to get in trouble. And I have a step dad that is very over protective, and already doesn't like this guy, because he's noticed some things between me and this guy. I'm very internally conflicted, and starting to feel depressed.

[Crazygurl123]

Hunny listen, you don't want to get involved with a cheater... If he cheated once, he'll do it again. Also if he's older, he'll find it a lot easier to manipulate you and play games. Not something you want. He may seem really nice and stuff but people can be very deceiving. I say forget this guy and find someone a little closer in age and preferably someone who is not involved with someone else already.. You deserve a lot better than what you're getting right now.

[sarahj27]

I'm in the same sittuation about the age difference!! It sucks.. but if your parnets find out I think they can only press charges if you and him have sex.. you can look that up on Google.. give him time. If he really loves you/ likes you he will come around but don't give up keep calling and texting him to let him know he is on your mind

[Cat1864]

Sarah, did you read the part about 'he has a girlfriend'? He is/was very close to cheating if he didn't cross the line with the kiss.

Stop trying to contact him if you haven't already and move on. Don't give into feeling depressed because this male isn't worth the energy. Even if he leaves his girlfriend, he still needs healing time or he would end up doing to you what he is doing to her. That is not an experience you need. Reading about it is much better than living it.

In this case a protective step-dad is a good thing because he doesn't want to see you used and hurt which is what seems to have been happening. You don't say how far under 18 you are or far over he is. Is he of legal drinking age where you live? Is his friend? Was there a sober driver when he left with his drunk friend? If not, then he is definitely not a responsible person and is tempting Fate. And Fate seems to winning these days.

Let your heart heal and get involved in your life. When you are ready you will find someone who is much better suited for you than this person. Someone who won't feel guilty about cheating and won't have to worry about getting arrested. Who knows, step-dad might even approve of the next one.

[LhOaVtEe]

This guy and I have liked each other for about 10 months now and have been through a lot of things. He has cheated on his girlfriend with me, then after that he started ignoring me for about 2 weeks. Then after he found out his girlfriend was cheating on him, they broke up. Then we started talking again. And as of now we are "friends with benefits" and he says that we will date when I'm older. But I also think he is having sex with someone other than me. I just have this gut feeling that he is, but I haven't seen or heard anything about it. I don't know if I'm just paranoid or if my gut feeling is right. What should I do?

[JudyKayTee]

You'll date when you're older. Until then you are friends with benefits - ?

How old are you?

[talaniman]

Of course he is cheating on you! No doubt, He cheated before, and knowing all this you still go for his crap. You have been asking for this misery, insecurity, and depression ever since you got with him so no wonder you feel used, because you are!

You love he takes, and its beyond me how you cannot see the difference. Leave a guy alone who takes your dignity, and self respect, and makes a zip darn FOOL of you!

Why can't you see that?

[Cat1864]

I guess your step-father was right to be concerned about this man. How far under 18 are you? How far over 18 is he?

I won't say he is cheating on you because he isn't. You have to be in a monogamous relationship for cheating to occur. Friends with benefits is not a committed relationship. It is being free to see anyone you want and still have a playmate who is willing to take care of your needs. He could have a dozen 'FWB's and it still would not be cheating on any of you.

You are a young female and you need to learn very quickly that you are worth so much more than being used for sex. This male doesn't care about you as an individual or partner. He only cares about getting his needs met and he thinks he has found a gullible teen who will be there when he wants it. If he cared about you, you would be a girlfriend and not a 'friends with benefits'. It is the sex that would wait until you were older instead of the dating.

Are you using birth control? If not, talk to your parents about getting on birth control and getting tested for sexually transmitted diseases/infections. I highly doubt he has been tested and if his ex was cheating and he has been playing around, you might be in for a nasty shock.

If you are going to play adult games, then be mature about it. Get protection and get tested.