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kisgyuri · Jan 20, 2012, 01:18 PM

Is it OK if I am a little jealous if my partner had more relations? She had 8 long relations, all of them with men with money. At one point she kicked her own son out of the house she was living in at the time. I already spent $20,000 to get her out of debt. I get nothing maybe friendship after 2 years. I did not even get a chance to kiss her

Fr_Chuck · Jan 20, 2012, 01:29 PM

I will have to assume English is not your native language and it is hard to understand fully. If possible try to sit down and slowly try to state what you are saying.

But no, there is no right to be jealous from past relationships, the past is the past. Next sorry, if she is judging on how much money you spend, you have the wrong person. If you are expecting something in a relationship because of what you spend, you don't have the right idea.

It sounds like you are being used for your money, So what do you want in the relationship, tell her.

talaniman · Jan 20, 2012, 03:21 PM

Boy, did you get hustled bad! 20 grand and not even a sniff? That's really bad!

She saw you coming.

PunkkBarbiee · Jan 23, 2012, 11:23 AM

In all honesty, she is using you. Get away from her --quick!

Xoxo.
PunkkBarbiee.

kisgyuri · Jan 25, 2012, 06:30 AM

I met this beautiful lady 1 year and half ago. We had no intimacies yet. I have the feeling that she is still involved with 2-3 of her exes. She had 7 long term relations. She blame the man on every relation. She always told me that at this point in her life she does not want a man she prefer to be alone. I just don't understand.

I have been alone since my divorce in 1984. I have not had a relation since. I am tired of being alone. I guess that's why I don't understand her. Plus I told her many times that I have deep feelings for her. We talk almost every day. Any ideas?

Schoolmarm97 · Jan 25, 2012, 07:23 AM

I'm sure it must be very hard for you to understand why your lady love would prefer not to have a steady relationship, but she is not at all unusual. Research has shown that marriage and long-term committed relationships are not nearly as healthy for women as they are for men. Many women, after a certain point, get tired of the cooking, cleaning, care-taking, and responsibility of having a man in their lives. They prefer to live alone and see whichever men make them happy when they want to see them. I'm older than you are, and most of my friends are now single, retired, and happy to be alone with perhaps a male friend to two as company now and then.

I'm sure she likes you very much or she wouldn't talk with you every day, but she is not going to be a one-man woman, so you might want to consider looking elsewhere for someone who wants to settle down with you.

talaniman · Jan 25, 2012, 03:21 PM

The detail you left out was you gave her $20,000, so its not hard to figure she was taking you for your loot.

She is a gold digger. That's what she does. Go get a nice girl friend and leave this one alone. And keep your money safe.

Homegirl 50 · Jan 25, 2012, 03:31 PM

Did you know all of this about her before you gave her money, if so why did you did you do it? If she was not intimate with you and told you she did not want a relationship, why were you giving her so much?
It sounds to me like you were desperate and she took advantage of it.
This is your fault too. You are not a child.

mmresd · Jan 25, 2012, 03:37 PM

I would recommend to get away from this "relationship" if you can call it that.

Schoolmarm97 · Jan 26, 2012, 08:57 AM

The money piece really is key. Are you really not getting what she's doing, or are you hoping that someone here will tell you it's all going to be okay and you'll get your money and your girl in the end? If so, that's not likely to happen.