[mrcasanova]

I'm 25 and I have parents who can be a little old fashioned especially when it involves my personal life and to try and cut a long story short I have never talked to my parents about my private life and they have never really asked me so they no nothing about any of they guys I have been with or anything.

A number of months ago I met this amazing man online (he's from Canada and I'm from Australia) and I knew when I met him that he was the one! He's sweet, he's funny, he's so caring and loving and treats me like a queen and of course we have been having a long distance relationship. We soon decided that I would move to Canada to live with him and start our lives together and as of a couple of weeks ago he asked me to marry him and I said yes!

Now the problem is I have to of course tell my parents but I don't know how as I have never talked to them about these things before and also I know with them being old fashioned like they can be, they will not approve of the circumstances in which I have this life love. My dad is very very protective of me still and my mum never seems to understand me or be rational most of the time so the fact that we are long distance they are going to have a problem with that and me moving over there will be an even bigger problem and yes of course the fact that I am ENGAGED even bigger and bigger!

My fiancé will be coming down for a visit for a month soon and of course there are introductions to be had with him and my parents but how do I go about it? My fiancé is aware of the situation with my mum and dad and is worried of the outcome when they find out about him as of course am I and I feel really guilty because he has told his family all about me and its not fair that mine don't know about him.

Obviously my parents will be his in-laws so we want things to go smoothly when he comes down but we are quite freaked out as to how we should handle it. Any suggestions?

[talaniman]

My fiancé will be coming down for a visit for a month soon

Am I wrong to assume this is your first face to face meeting as well with this few months on line relationship/engagement/marriage?

You don't have to be old fashion to say What the heck, with the speed you are moving at. Plan for the best, everything will go smooth, but expect the worst, CHAOS, because they will be freaked out by it all.

I suggest not overwhelming them all at once, and only give them SMALL bits, starting now, and slowly building up to the truth, as first they should be given time to wrap their head around the fact you have a guy. The rest can come later, but the more you put it off the less time you will have to prepare them.

[Monkeebizz]

Well Kid here's my educated opinion.

Obviously You were not brought up with too much godly devotion or you would know better to marry someone with same faith.I think your Dad will be more upset if the guy don't measure up to his expectations depending on how macho your dad is.
I know for sure that I wouldn't want my little girl to get involved ina wimpy man who couldn't do manly things like automotive repair.
But both of you have your own choices to make and life is all about the choices we make every day.
So don't let other people opinions on who you are to fall in love with affect your life. As if to say the "Falling " in love is supposed to be good because even the term falling sounds not correct. Just as the term "madly in love" sounds not right either. If love makes you mad then something is wrong. Or take it from Lady Ga Ga and listen to the lyrics of "Bad Romance " Or many other "Love songs" and you willbegin to realize as you get older and hopefully "Wiser" that we are in a fallen world where the god of this system of things is Satn the devil and he is against family and pure love where you live happily ever after like you read about in school.
Sorry to fill you in but you've been lied to most of your life and this world especially here in America is BUILT on lies.

R. L. Thom & Associates.

[mmresd]

I would recommend to take the relationship down a notch and to actually meet the person you are trying to marry. I can be sweet online too, but be an @$$hole face to face, be careful who you meet online. Also, you should probably not move in with someone who you have not even met before. Your subconsience know this... THAT is why you probably cannot tell your parent about this.