You're right. It's not that easy. If it were that simple half of the worlds problems would be solved. But fear not. Help is on the way!
What does it take to be independent? Money. Go get a job... any job. Don't ask his opinion. He's not your husband, he's your boyfriend. You don't need his permission to do anything. Expect him to get mad. But that's cool because he's not likely to do anything to you. If he hits you, he goes to jail. If he throws you out of the house, then he won't have anyone to push around. He's not going to like either one of those senerios. That puts you in charge. Feels good, doesn't it?
Like kcomissiong said, there are a multitude of resources at your disposal. Don't you go through life in misery one more second. Say to yourself, "I can do ANYTHING". Go on, say it - out loud - twice! Take that attitude with you when you step up. If you want friends then go get friends. It's none of his business anyway (he isn't your husband). If he hits you, if he pushes you, if he brushes up against you accidentally, JAIL! If he kicks you out, FREEDOM! Remember, you're in charge now.
Now, I'm not suggesting that you start a fight with him, or even an argument. If he's mean enough he could hurt you badly, so use your common sense. Don't start anything, but don't back down either. You can do this. Take your life back... not tomorrow, not after coffee, NOW! Go do what you got to do.
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