[neondizzle]

Girls I needs some help. Guys, I almost know what your all going to say! They do not have an intimate relationship and she is a very sexual being. I met her by chance and the sexual energy between us was explosive from the beginning. He and I are completely different. I'm good looking and clean cut. He's not! From jobs, hygiene, aspirations, quality of life, health and fitness its black and white. When you see them together you wonder how that happened. I know that's why she likes me but she won't leave him. She tells me horror stories of their relationship, and from what I've seen (yes I've seen him out) and what mutual people we both know who know them have said, I believe all of it. Very confusing. I'm a single guy living the life right now. Good job, condo, friends, dating a lot, no kids, no drama, skies the limit for me. I love my life. I know I'm the #2 in her life and I'm OK with that. It bothers me a little sometimes but she's so hot and awesome to be with I don't care. Last Sunday I met a cute,hilarious little barbie doll through some mutual friends. My ride left and I didn't want to leave so she offered to give me a ride home. After a night of drinking we ended up at my place for a "sleepover". We both had to work the next morning. I was walking out of my condo to walk her to the car, guess who's coming down the hall to surprise me. Ooops. (I love my problems) She turned right around and walked away and luckily the one I was with didn't suspect anything. I called her a few minutes later to ask her what she was doing here and she went nuts on me! Calling me a piece of Sh*t, to lose her number and that she doesn't ever want to talk to me again. How could I do this to her? I was like wait, you have a boyfriend! Was I suppose to wait around? I feel bad that I hurt her, I didn't want to do that to her. At the same time I want to tell her to F herself and stop being ridiculous. Over all I really like her and wish things were different and we didn't have to sneak around. I don't want to lose her # and never talk to her again, but should I just let it go?

[Karagyozi]

If you are only good enough to be number #2 in her life... she should be happy you are even calling her. She is a booty call, and that's it. Live your life, poke all you want until you meet the right girl. When you do meet that special girl wait and see how often she calls then, you might want to change your number at that point because women all want what they can't have. You are her "go to" guy when her main squeeze isn't around.

How old are you and she if I may ask?

[neondizzle]

I'm 31 she's 21 =\

[Cat1864]

I am going to be blunt: Stop thinking with your libido and start using your brain.

You are old enough to know that she is unavailable and you should stay away from her. It doesn't matter what she tells you or what she wants. She is cheating and using you as an adult toy. If she is lying to him about what she is doing, you can bet she is lying to you too.

She needs to get her act together. You need to leave her alone while she does. Even if she left her boyfriend for you, the problems would be continuing. Who would she leave you for? Who would be her next 'better lover than the current one'? How many of the issues in her present relationship are her using him and stringing him along like she is you?

Let her and all the baggage she carries around go. Get your head on straight. Probably get a check up and screening for sexually transmitted infections/diseases while you are at it.

Sit down and think about whether you really like your life the way you are currently living it or if perhaps you are starting to want something more committed. I think you are confused right now about what you want and it has you holding on to someone who makes a great excuse for why you are single. It can be easy to convince yourself you want a relationship but the person you want is unavailable so it is her fault you are single but not fully available at the same time. What do you really want in a relationship?