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    TwistedSister Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Jan 11, 2012, 09:01 PM
    I love my BF's BFF... but there's a twist!
    Okay, I have been dating this guy for about 7 months. He's really sweet; though he's kind of quiet and a loner. We haven't talked much recently because we have both been busy with school, but...
    I want to break up with him. I know deep down its not going to work out. We don't talk much, and... I just don't feel that spiritual connection everyone else says they feel when they've met their one true love. It's like the spark died out.
    However, I am in love with this guy... He has been one of my close friends for years, and has recently been tying to cope with suicidal thoughts. I think he's perfect, and I think he might feel the same way. He's also my boyfriend's best friend, and I know how tough t will be to not hurt anybody's feelings.
    But Here's where it all gets complicated.
    First, my friend (whom I will call Jessica for the sake of argument) has dated this guy before. He didn't really care for her, and they broke up. However, Jessica still likes this guy a lot. I have told her before, when I wasn't sure of my feelings for him, that I did not like this guy.
    But that's not just what I'm worried about.
    Jessica found out the other day that my boyfriend is gay.
    Now, I support gay rights, and I'm okay with his decision, except I'm kind of disappointed he didn't tell me first, but that's not a big deal.
    Except he's in love with the same guy I'm in love with.
    So I really am stuck between a rock and a hard place. My boyfriend's still in the closet, and his best friend is presumably straight. And I still LOVE his best friend! What do I do?
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    Jan 11, 2012, 11:44 PM
    GOOD GOD that's tough trouble there. Umm OK Ill take a shot here, you should reveal your feelings to this man and tell him to keep it confidential, in time ask your friend "jessica" to come over and your soon to be exboyfriend. You all need to talk and figure it all out, honesty is the best policy. Just think it through. Good luck girl

    ~ivette~
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    Jan 12, 2012, 02:01 PM
    Be honest with your boyfriend, tell him the thrill is gone, and then take a break from romance and see what plays out amongst your friends. I can tell you, you don't need to jump from one guy, to his best friend, or give your heart to a guy your ex is in love with, and add to that your girlfriends feelings?

    On paper 3 people, one guy and two girls in love with the same person, is a drama that's best avoided, or watched from a safe distance.

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