[pez4363]

Hi

A brief history for you

Me and my ex got together 7 years ago after she had a very bad realationship, things progressed quickly and we moved in together we had our son 4 yrs ago and we finally got married in may 2010 a week later she went away to see some friends, she came back and said that she didn't love me and didn't want to be with me, we managed to talk through things and she asked if I would go the doctors with her and he diagnosed her with acute depression so we tried to carry on as normal, she continued to go away every weekend literally leaving me at home with our son, there was no affection or intamacy between us
She took out a lot of pay day loans and was spending money like water and left us both in serious debt. A few months ago it all became too much for me to handle I felt lonely isolated and unloved and I asked her for a break and I moved out, I still paid for all the bills and I was ringing her daily to make sure she was OK I thought she wanted the time alone to think, a few weeks later I found out that she had been dating one of these friends she was going to see, he has more or less moved in and when I have tried totalk to her she has been icey and dismissive of me, I asked if we could have another chance at things and she has said that we won't work because she has changed as a person and can't forgive the things that have happened due to the fact I have said a lot of things out of anger and pain. She has also done this but I'm willing to try and work things out

I realise that I haven't done thebest thing by leaving when I was needed the most and she more than likely resents that but I was only thinking what was best for her.
The friends and family I have spokebn to about this think that it has been going on a lot longer than I know of and that she is infactuated by this new peron and she will realize what has happened and come back but to be honest I am pessimistic at best about it

I would appreciate anyone's views / comments on this

Thanks
Mart

[smoothy]

My opinion... she did it once... she's going to do it again. And its clear she refuses to accept responsibility for her part in it. It takes both, you can't do this alone. And I think they are right... this has been going on longer than you know. Normally with a kid involved I'd say try to work it out first... but its clear she has ittle respect for you, the marriage or anything else. Nobody should be subjected to that every day.